This has to stop. A 33/hetero/male doesn't expose a gay rapist yoga instructor by writing an expose in the form of an erotic novel on Medium.
Also-- Why is this on the front fucking page of Hacker News?
I was sexually assaulted at Equinox and banned for reporting it
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#12> Three weeks after I’d sent Equinox a request for assistance, I received a call from a senior global executive. Without an ounce of compassion, he told me I was banned from Equinox — that, as a private gym, they had the right to cancel my membership for any reason, and they’ve decided to terminate mine.
I bet this came from the legal department. It seems blunt (and it is), but the rationale would be something like, "This guy got assaulted, we may be liable for something, let's keep him away so we don't make things worse until its settled.". Not so much victim blaming as covering your ass going forward.
> In my view, this is deplorable. As the major leading fitness brand, Equinox should never take this kind of approach in dealing with customers. I’ve paid over $10,000 in fees over the past two years, and I did not deserve to be treated so disrespectfully by the instructor, and I do not know why I should have been banned. For Equinox to cancel my membership, to ban me from the gym for no apparent reason only feeds a culture of victim-blaming.
$10K for a gym membership over two years?! That over $416/month. Is that normal for the area?
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#13This has 100 votes after one hour. It has no connection to technology. It's an unverified post on medium. And the punishment referred to in the headline is that the $5000/yr membership to his gym was cancelled.
Meanwhile, discussions of women' discrimination, in the tech sector, from reputable sources are flagged as fast as possible. C. f.: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=15267221
Re: I was sexually assaulted at Equinox and banned for reporting it
#14> Three weeks after I’d sent Equinox a request for assistance, I received a call from a senior global executive. Without an ounce of compassion, he told me I was banned from Equinox — that, as a private gym, they had the right to cancel my membership for any reason, and they’ve decided to terminate mine. I bet this came from the legal department. It seems blunt (and it is), but the rationale would be something like,…
$416/month is higher than I pay, but I have been an Equinox member for years, and yes, it is very expensive. I started going when I was in SV working at a tech company that paid 50% of my dues. Currently, I pay $180 CAD/month right now, plus another $90 CAD/month for a dedicated locker with laundry service.
It's expensive, and I could certainly get a cheaper membership elsewhere. But it fits perfectly into my daily routine, and is part of why I've lost 40 lbs over the last 3 months, so for me, it's a worthwhile expense.
Re: I was sexually assaulted at Equinox and banned for reporting it
#15This has 100 votes after one hour. It has no connection to technology. It's an unverified post on medium. And the punishment referred to in the headline is that the $5000/yr membership to his gym was cancelled. Meanwhile, discussions of women' discrimination, in the tech sector, from reputable sources are flagged as fast as possible. C. f.: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=15267221
I agree with you about the questionable nature of this post's popularity on Hacker News and also question its validity. I am confident that many others would agree.
There are many other relevant stories that fail to rise through the ranks here, not just the one you mentioned.
Re: I was sexually assaulted at Equinox and banned for reporting it
#16> Three weeks after I’d sent Equinox a request for assistance, I received a call from a senior global executive. Without an ounce of compassion, he told me I was banned from Equinox — that, as a private gym, they had the right to cancel my membership for any reason, and they’ve decided to terminate mine. I bet this came from the legal department. It seems blunt (and it is), but the rationale would be something like,…
If he was sexually assaulted and they're banning him to cover their own ass, that's way worse than victim blaming as it suggests they are aware the victim is not at fault yet they punish the victim anyway. An economic incentive does not excuse immoral acts. It's disgusting how quick people are to defend this kind of behavior. Anyone who was involved in making that decision is a worthless piece of shit.
Re: I was sexually assaulted at Equinox and banned for reporting it
#17This has 100 votes after one hour. It has no connection to technology. It's an unverified post on medium. And the punishment referred to in the headline is that the $5000/yr membership to his gym was cancelled. Meanwhile, discussions of women' discrimination, in the tech sector, from reputable sources are flagged as fast as possible. C. f.: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=15267221
Stories about men who've been the victim of sexual assault are often buried and silenced. Please don't try to do that.
It's likely this must be "an unverified medium post" because the media and the authorities often ignore these stories.
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#18This has 100 votes after one hour. It has no connection to technology. It's an unverified post on medium. And the punishment referred to in the headline is that the $5000/yr membership to his gym was cancelled. Meanwhile, discussions of women' discrimination, in the tech sector, from reputable sources are flagged as fast as possible. C. f.: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=15267221
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Re: I was sexually assaulted at Equinox and banned for reporting it
#19This has 100 votes after one hour. It has no connection to technology. It's an unverified post on medium. And the punishment referred to in the headline is that the $5000/yr membership to his gym was cancelled. Meanwhile, discussions of women' discrimination, in the tech sector, from reputable sources are flagged as fast as possible. C. f.: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=15267221
I agree with you about the questionable nature of this post's popularity on Hacker News and also question its validity. I am confident that many others would agree. There are many other relevant stories that fail to rise through the ranks here, not just the one you mentioned.
That happens 24 hours a day and has been happening for 10 years on this site. Why does this story seem so absurd and unjustified to you? Why does this topic bring out such crazy reactions to it? It's weird to see in action.
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#20Earlier quoted context omitted.
I agree with you about the questionable nature of this post's popularity on Hacker News and also question its validity. I am confident that many others would agree. There are many other relevant stories that fail to rise through the ranks here, not just the one you mentioned.
That happens 24 hours a day and has been happening for 10 years on this site. Why does this story seem so absurd and unjustified to you? Why does this topic bring out such crazy reactions to it? It's weird to see in action.
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