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The Most Important Skill You Can Cultivate

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The most important skill is the meta-skill: the skill to acquire and improve skills. This requires resilience, patience, self-critical thinking, etc.

A beginning hacker uses tools. An advanced hacker improves tools. A great hacker invents tools. An enlightened hacker sees (and invents/improves/uses) himself as a tool.

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I have great resilience, my wife doesn't. I know enough to say that you just can't learn resilience (nor ask another person to). It's also a personality trait, resilient people tend to think about what could go wrong; my wife gives me weird looks if I put a raincoat in the car on a sunny day.

Hmm I'd put the raincoat-in-the-car anecdote in the "neuroticism" category. I think of resilience as the ability to weather issues that you don't foresee.

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I have great resilience, my wife doesn't. I know enough to say that you just can't learn resilience (nor ask another person to). It's also a personality trait, resilient people tend to think about what could go wrong; my wife gives me weird looks if I put a raincoat in the car on a sunny day.

Hmm I'd put the raincoat-in-the-car anecdote in the "neuroticism" category. I think of resilience as the ability to weather issues that you don't foresee.

>The curious thing is that I wasn’t so upset about what happened. Almost not upset at all. I set aside an emergency fund for such cases, so financially it wasn’t really a problem

I think the two go hand in hand. You can't practice it if you're not prepared somehow for that eventuality. Having 2 child seats stolen while living paycheck to paycheck can be pretty devastating.

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I don't know how many of you have read "10% Happier", but it was a bit ahead of the curve with the current mindfulness / stoic fad that's been floating around the Internet.

Toward the end of the book, Harris talks about how being zen is great, but also not terribly effective in the modern world, specifically in the modern workplace. So it's ok to be chill about some things, but there are other things you absolutely can and should get mad about. Otherwise, you're not living your life, you're just being a zombie.

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I beg to disagree. You need to be careful with what you accept. Little by little, small things pile up and make a big difference. Some examples: * Nasty managers. You go on accepting one issue here and other there and the guy will just get worse and worse. * Collapsing countries, such as most of Latin America and Caribbean. You go on accepting some crime because "shit happens" until you are in a place where you just…

Acceptance is not the same as complacency.

I think the article is suggesting that accepting your current situation puts you in a better mindset to tackle it full-force if it's going to cause you problems down the road.

"Ok, so we're here--now what?"

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I don't know how many of you have read "10% Happier", but it was a bit ahead of the curve with the current mindfulness / stoic fad that's been floating around the Internet. Toward the end of the book, Harris talks about how being zen is great, but also not terribly effective in the modern world, specifically in the modern workplace. So it's ok to be chill about some things, but there are other things you absolutely c…

> Toward the end of the book, Harris talks about how being zen is great, but also not terribly effective in the modern world, specifically in the modern workplace. So it's ok to be chill about some things, but there are other things you absolutely can and should get mad about. Otherwise, you're not living your life, you're just being a zombie.

I admit my exposure to Zen is as an interested outsider and dabbler/dilettante, not as a practitioner, but this seems to betray a significant, fundamental misunderstanding of Zen.

Unless we're just using "zen" as a colloquial synonym for "hella chill".

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post #17

I don't know how many of you have read "10% Happier", but it was a bit ahead of the curve with the current mindfulness / stoic fad that's been floating around the Internet. Toward the end of the book, Harris talks about how being zen is great, but also not terribly effective in the modern world, specifically in the modern workplace. So it's ok to be chill about some things, but there are other things you absolutely c…

> Toward the end of the book, Harris talks about how being zen is great, but also not terribly effective in the modern world, specifically in the modern workplace. So it's ok to be chill about some things, but there are other things you absolutely can and should get mad about. Otherwise, you're not living your life, you're just being a zombie. I admit my exposure to Zen is as an interested outsider and dabbler/dilett…

Agree. Terms like "Zen" and "Mindful" are being seriously misused. Whatever we call "zen" is not "zen" in the Buddhist sense.

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I have great resilience, my wife doesn't. I know enough to say that you just can't learn resilience (nor ask another person to). It's also a personality trait, resilient people tend to think about what could go wrong; my wife gives me weird looks if I put a raincoat in the car on a sunny day.

Resilience isn't something you learn directly, it's something you acquire indirectly by living a life that requires it. Almost anyone with a positive outlook who puts themself in a situation that requires resilience will get it eventually.
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