"150 dates without success" --> what happens when engineering meets the red pilled world of dating.
My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love
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#12Earlier quoted context omitted.
Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized. If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else…
Even in that case, why wear the ring in the picture? Edit: On second look, that picture looks to be a stock photo, not one of the dates the author went on.
I think this is probably a stock photo just used to add a photo to the article.
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#13Problem number one, that girl in the opening picture has a ring on her left hand. Perhaps try again with single girls?
Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized. If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else…
If there's not trickery involved then they wouldn't be wearing a ring, surely?
Re: My Failed Attempt at Engineering Love
#14Earlier quoted context omitted.
Is it unethical to go out with someone that wants out of their marriage? A divorce is costly, takes a lot of time, and the relationship is usually dead long before the papers are finalized. If there's trickery involved, then sure. But it's not quite so clear-cut. Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else…
Even in that case, why wear the ring in the picture? Edit: On second look, that picture looks to be a stock photo, not one of the dates the author went on.
Is nobody wearing rings just for fun?
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#15Sometimes we get so wrapped up in could, that we don't spend the time to ask if we should.
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#16151st date is the charm.
This is a bit like living in NYC for both parties: there is so much volume that you can't get past the first minor disappointment.
I think the volume prevents you from focusing on one person to figure out what you want.
You might want to focus some kind of algo on the second part of the dating: selection.
Don't just go on your gut or how you felt after the date. You need multiple dates to figure that out.
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#17I’m a fat, bald, short guy whose only quality is that he isn’t an ax murderer.
Cart before the horse. Also, smiley faces are kinda creepy in your first message.
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#18There was this a few years ago
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#19"150 dates without success" --> what happens when engineering meets the red pilled world of dating.
Seems like the problem was that his bot didn't filter very well and ended up matching him with tons of people that he had to instantly reject on the date.
I wonder if there is a mentality problem here too. He had invested so little into each date that there was little incentive to put in the effort to pierce the surface and look for common interests.
Going on 150 dates and not finding a single match tells me that you are shooting outside of your league. Your perfect match could do better than you, and is already taken anyway.
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#20Step 1, for success, is moving away from the Bay Area.