Alone and co-workers. Sad.
Do your co-workers count as friends? Then it's actually pretty good. If not - that's a change you can make without even changing your lifestyle.
Who Americans spend their time with
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Re: Who Americans spend their time with
#12Longitudinal data would be informative. I strongly suspect people spent less time alone in the past. (Note: The X-axis is age.) My theories: * Multitude of choices given to us by technology have led to fewer things we pay attention to in common with our friends and neighbors. Thus, fewer shared loci of interaction. Career specialization is another key contributing factor. * More recently, dopamine rush generated by e…
I'm not convinced by your argument with regard to the multitude of choices. A counter point could be that we should be more likely to have at least something in common with more people. Somebody must be consuming mass-media, problem the masses . I think a better theory to support your point is that we tend to be less religious and therefore less community oriented. I don't really know if that holds up though. We have…
My theory assumes as a presupposition that people are only likely to travel a certain distance to see others, since time is a scarce and non-renewable resource.
If interests are fragmented, the number of people we both share interests with and are friends with within a given radius becomes smaller.
Facebook might help a bit for organizing events and maintaining existing ties but it also contributes to the dopamine rush above.
Some sort of ways to connect new people with one another within a local area could be helpful. I found Meetup interesting and useful but could be improved upon. I used to attend some events organized by WeWork and those felt more energized but still no real friendships emerged.
The only thing that really helped make new long-term friends for me was sharing a co-working space with people who had some interests in common.
Re: Who Americans spend their time with
#13Longitudinal data would be informative. I strongly suspect people spent less time alone in the past. (Note: The X-axis is age.) My theories: * Multitude of choices given to us by technology have led to fewer things we pay attention to in common with our friends and neighbors. Thus, fewer shared loci of interaction. Career specialization is another key contributing factor. * More recently, dopamine rush generated by e…
I'm not convinced by your argument with regard to the multitude of choices. A counter point could be that we should be more likely to have at least something in common with more people. Somebody must be consuming mass-media, problem the masses . I think a better theory to support your point is that we tend to be less religious and therefore less community oriented. I don't really know if that holds up though. We have…
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#14I assume sleeping isn't counted.
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#15Rigtheo, so now we need to compare to other cultures and overlay the results with mental health issues, self-reported happiness, income, GDP, obesity, and all the other interesting metrics. We already know the results though: people who have strong family ties and closer and enduring friendships and sense of community live longer healthier lives than their lonely counterparts and are more productive at work and in th…
> people who have strong family ties and closer and enduring friendships and sense of community live longer healthier lives than their lonely counterparts and are more productive at work and in their own pursuits.
You need to stop perpetuating this false idea that you can live a truly happy and healthy life without working hard.
Many middle and lower class individuals are using this as an excuse to justify "Oh I don't work a lot and don't have as much money as the guy driving a Tesla, but it's okay, I'm having fun in life."
Yet, these same individuals wish they could afford world travel and explore new cultures. They wish they had enough money to eat raw fish and fresh salads to improve their health. They wish they could buy an electric vehicle to help the environment. They wish they could have a more intellectually stimulating job instead of retail or as a restaurant waiters. No matter how you slice and dice it, work, ultimately leading to money, buys happiness; but only enough happiness to be happier than average. Even in Norway.
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#16These are some of the worst designed charts. I had to download the CSV to figure out that the x-axis is age. Once I figured it out the bottom right chart was chilling.
> These are some of the worst designed charts.
Especially because there was no label on the axes... and also no n size whatsoever and no information on how the question was asked and how the data is reported (averages? if yes it's completely useless data, averages are typically the worst kind of data you can extract).
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#17Longitudinal data would be informative. I strongly suspect people spent less time alone in the past. (Note: The X-axis is age.) My theories: * Multitude of choices given to us by technology have led to fewer things we pay attention to in common with our friends and neighbors. Thus, fewer shared loci of interaction. Career specialization is another key contributing factor. * More recently, dopamine rush generated by e…
I'm not convinced by your argument with regard to the multitude of choices. A counter point could be that we should be more likely to have at least something in common with more people. Somebody must be consuming mass-media, problem the masses . I think a better theory to support your point is that we tend to be less religious and therefore less community oriented. I don't really know if that holds up though. We have…
Facebook makes events easier to organise if you're happy to organise events which only Facebook members are invited to.
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#18Earlier quoted context omitted.
I'm not convinced by your argument with regard to the multitude of choices. A counter point could be that we should be more likely to have at least something in common with more people. Somebody must be consuming mass-media, problem the masses . I think a better theory to support your point is that we tend to be less religious and therefore less community oriented. I don't really know if that holds up though. We have…
Facebook makes events easier to organise if you're happy to organise events which only Facebook members are invited to.
Because to view any Facebook event page you must agree to a Nondisclosure Agreement that restricts you from revealing the particulars of the event to people who do not have Facebook accounts.
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#19I assume sleeping isn't counted.
That has to be assumed, as otherwise the "time spent alone" for children would be much higher, as having your own bedroom as a teenager is still pretty common.
Re: Who Americans spend their time with
#20Longitudinal data would be informative. I strongly suspect people spent less time alone in the past. (Note: The X-axis is age.) My theories: * Multitude of choices given to us by technology have led to fewer things we pay attention to in common with our friends and neighbors. Thus, fewer shared loci of interaction. Career specialization is another key contributing factor. * More recently, dopamine rush generated by e…
I think that your theory is not accounting for how ageing will change the way you interact/adopt technology. Looking at the "old" edge of the charts from a youngish perspective might miss some important drivers of how older people view the world...