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Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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> 2. Thank the people who never get thanked I always make a point of telling anyone in IT at whatever company I worked for that I appreciated what they did and knew it was a thankless job. It's one of those areas where if you do a perfect job no one knows you're there and you're only high-profile when you screw up. I've found over the years that they'll pay back that kindness ten-fold and often when you're in some so…

To add onto this, I remember explaining the idea of our devops team to my non-technical/muggle coworkers at one point. Explaining how "the cloud" and "servers" are really just OPM (other peoples' machines) and that you need entire teams to orchestrate those servers (among other things) opened their eyes to how comparable IT teams are to civil engineers.

I like to think they enjoyed learning about the process and will appreciate it more in the future.

Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

It's not "fake gratitude", it's "verbalizing real gratitude". The article is about cultivating an environment where gratitude is known.

To add on to this, this thinking of "fake" vs "real" gratitude falls into the typical Socratic thinking of "I can tell you what isn't XXX but I can't tell you what it is cause I'm not wise yada yada." As human beings we like to think we can tell human beings intentions. However, as miscommunication proves, we often can't, at least accurately. Having individuals go through the motions of generosity, humility, and grat…

> teaching people those intentions

why do we need to teach people though? If its obvious that gratitude is good why can't we simply adopt it in an instant. Unless you mean 'anti gratitude' is inherent to all human minds and needs to be constantly suppressed and overpowered through practice.

Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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post #5

Is it really gratitude if you cultivate it? Can you really become mindful/thankful/x via pure practice? If it makes sense and is logical why can't you instantly become thankful, why do you practice? I see ton's of people in daily life who have cultivated modesty (eg: politicians, ceo's ect) . It is so obvious that its fake, why do ppl do this?

The article had a point about not overdoing it, and, to consider specifics of things that actually helped, which would sound more sincere if mentioned. You have to remind yourself that people actually are helping you.

(skip the joke about faking sincerity)

Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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Just wanted to say something about this part: "In short, Americans actively suppress gratitude on the job, even to the point of robbing themselves of happiness. Why? It may be because in theory, no one gives away anything at work; every exchange is fundamentally economic." <- this does not matches with my work experiences with americans at all. On the contrary I noticed careful attention to appreciate every bit.

Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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post #5

Is it really gratitude if you cultivate it? Can you really become mindful/thankful/x via pure practice? If it makes sense and is logical why can't you instantly become thankful, why do you practice? I see ton's of people in daily life who have cultivated modesty (eg: politicians, ceo's ect) . It is so obvious that its fake, why do ppl do this?

Some fake it because it works. They use it as a cheap way to hack the superior primate's reciprocity schemas.

Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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yo gratitude is nice but mainly make sure you're at a minimum in a good working environment. again, gratitude is nice, but it's not necessary for a healthy working environment.

i think many people here would be surprised how many people don't give a shit about things like gratitude etc but just want a working/decent coffee maker in the office.

a healthy working environment is the most important.

Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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Just wanted to say something about this part: "In short, Americans actively suppress gratitude on the job, even to the point of robbing themselves of happiness. Why? It may be because in theory, no one gives away anything at work; every exchange is fundamentally economic." <- this does not matches with my work experiences with americans at all. On the contrary I noticed careful attention to appreciate every bit.

I agree - this matches my experience too. Americans are blunt but that goes both ways. They appreciate a good deed while at the same time make their disapproval heard too.

Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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post #4

> 2. Thank the people who never get thanked I always make a point of telling anyone in IT at whatever company I worked for that I appreciated what they did and knew it was a thankless job. It's one of those areas where if you do a perfect job no one knows you're there and you're only high-profile when you screw up. I've found over the years that they'll pay back that kindness ten-fold and often when you're in some so…

I am similar but even more wide spread. Receptionist, anyone. I also try to do the same for anyone I deal with in a customer service role out in the world. Even the smallest thing really can make someone's day a little better, and isn't that worth the insignificant effort to do it?

Re: Ways to Cultivate Gratitude at Work

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post #10

Earlier quoted context omitted.

To add on to this, this thinking of "fake" vs "real" gratitude falls into the typical Socratic thinking of "I can tell you what isn't XXX but I can't tell you what it is cause I'm not wise yada yada." As human beings we like to think we can tell human beings intentions. However, as miscommunication proves, we often can't, at least accurately. Having individuals go through the motions of generosity, humility, and grat…

> teaching people those intentions why do we need to teach people though? If its obvious that gratitude is good why can't we simply adopt it in an instant. Unless you mean 'anti gratitude' is inherent to all human minds and needs to be constantly suppressed and overpowered through practice.

Call it "teaching," "training," "learning," "conditioning," or whatever else you like, but it seems pretty self-evident that people change how they think and feel based on their experiences. Some of those experiences involve acting a certain way and seeing how others react.

Think about it the other way—in terms of negative emotions. A person with anger problems might practice suppressing blowups and taking a moment to try to deal with the anger before moving on. Would you accuse them of being fake-not-angry? Of course not. They're practicing healthy behavior, and over time the practice becomes natural and they don't even have to think about it anymore. They have become a genuinely less angry person by practicing non-angry behaviors.

Practicing gratitude is the same thing, except you're reinforcing a positive emotion rather than suppressing a negative one. You can become a genuinely more thankful person by reminding yourself to express gratitude.

I question any person's ability to truly read the thoughts or emotions of another. At any given moment, a person's thoughts and feelings are very complex and entangled, yet when we interpret their actions we reduce them down to a simple emotion or intention. That oversimplification is always inaccurate, and we should work to develop more complex understandings of other people. So when someone looks like they're faking modesty, they may in fact feel somewhat modest, or at least be faking it for "good" reasons.

There is, of course, a difference between "saying what you're supposed to say" and "trying to be more outwardly grateful," but in reality the lines blur a lot and neither is a bad thing. This may be an unpopular opinion, but when it comes to public discourse, I'll take fake expressions of gratitude over genuine expressions of contempt any day of the week.

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