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I think this is rooted in the fact that humans don't really do intelligence all that well themselves. Most of us raise kids in a manner that assumes chuldren aren't independent thinking beings and we have a lot of social "rules" that fail to take into account actual independent thought and then humans bring these big blind spots to AI work. Until we overcome such issues in humans, they probably are not solvable in AI…
If you're going to go down that path then your entire argument is moot because the definition of "intelligence" is so unclear.
Humans are pretty bad about imposing third party points of view on behavior and reasoning. Until we get better at understanding reasoning from a first person point of view for humans, we are going to have trouble figuring out how to write effective algorithms for AI.
Is that any clearer? If not, what is unclear?
Thanks.