A Million First Dates
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A Million First Dates
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#2TL;DR: anecdotally, "internet dating has made people more disposable"
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#3TL;DR: anecdotally, "internet dating has made people more disposable"
The argument goes that internet dating has made commitment less attractive, and divorce more common.
That's not necessarily a bad thing. In the future we will have fewer people clinging to abusive partners and putting up with destructive relationships. Online dating provides more options.
On the other hand, a lot more children are going to grow up without both their biological parents. Is that such a bad thing? I'm not convinced it is, but I've never really bought into the concept of family.
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#4TL;DR: anecdotally, "internet dating has made people more disposable"
The argument goes that internet dating has made commitment less attractive, and divorce more common. That's not necessarily a bad thing. In the future we will have fewer people clinging to abusive partners and putting up with destructive relationships. Online dating provides more options. On the other hand, a lot more children are going to grow up without both their biological parents. Is that such a bad thing? I'm n…
Yes, I thought that most of what the article stated was well supported, but they made a leap from "people are more likely to leave relationships that aren't that great" to social values suffering. I'd rather be single than trapped in a marriage I don't really enjoy.
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#5TL;DR: anecdotally, "internet dating has made people more disposable"
The argument goes that internet dating has made commitment less attractive, and divorce more common. That's not necessarily a bad thing. In the future we will have fewer people clinging to abusive partners and putting up with destructive relationships. Online dating provides more options. On the other hand, a lot more children are going to grow up without both their biological parents. Is that such a bad thing? I'm n…
Counterpoint: I'm young, but I still measure my core friendships in decades ...
I'm not going to settle for a life where 'romantic partner' is not a core friendship, one which I can rely on in the same way as my lifelong friends and close family.
I think that a lot of people feel the same way.
To me, that's more persuasive even than the 'think of the children argument', and much less likely to change.
The 'think of the children' argument is pretty strong here. We all know the stats: kids from single-parent families tend to grow up in more negative environments, tend towards worse outcomes.
But maybe society can solve that problem! For instance, if a kid's parents are divorced, but are constantly in caring relationships, maybe society can evolve to a point where those kids aren't disadvantaged, and where they have a relatively stable upbringing.
But that won't change my mind about 'romantic partner' belonging in the category of 'secure, long-term friendships.'
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#6Earlier quoted context omitted.
The argument goes that internet dating has made commitment less attractive, and divorce more common. That's not necessarily a bad thing. In the future we will have fewer people clinging to abusive partners and putting up with destructive relationships. Online dating provides more options. On the other hand, a lot more children are going to grow up without both their biological parents. Is that such a bad thing? I'm n…
Counterpoint: I'm young, but I still measure my core friendships in decades ... I'm not going to settle for a life where 'romantic partner' is not a core friendship, one which I can rely on in the same way as my lifelong friends and close family. I think that a lot of people feel the same way. To me, that's more persuasive even than the 'think of the children argument', and much less likely to change. The 'think of t…
Now you have to really hope that your romantic partner sees things just the way you do.
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#7This article considers only the people whose aim in relationship is to aid in their lonliness, find someone to be with, blah blah. What about those who want to have kids, and a family. I dont think anyone will have the same line of thought after having kids.
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#8TL;DR: anecdotally, "internet dating has made people more disposable"
Thank you. I kept waiting and waiting for the article to get to its point, and it just kept going on and on as a shaggy-dog story.
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#9This article considers only the people whose aim in relationship is to aid in their lonliness, find someone to be with, blah blah. What about those who want to have kids, and a family. I dont think anyone will have the same line of thought after having kids.
It's too early to tell what the effect will be on these kinds of couples. Even with kids, you go through phases, and life at age 1 (for the children) is vastly different than at age 21