How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by zdw » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 2:53 PM UTC

How to tolerate annoying things
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Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by gregschlom » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 4:39 PM UTC

I've been reading No Mud, No Lotus recently (https://www.parallax.org/product/no-mud-no-lotus/) by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh and this is very much the same advice.

This book has brought me immense joy, I'd recommend it to anyone.

It's fascinating how much Buddhism has gotten "right".

Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by begueradj » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 4:55 PM UTC

Can't read the article from phone.

Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by ndr42 » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 4:59 PM UTC

From the article: Micro-stressors such as running late [...] represent the unavoidable pain that comes with being human.

Is running late really unavoidable? I think there are proven strategies to avoid it. (My wife and one of my sons on the other hand would agree that it is in fact unavoidable)

Edit: added missing word

Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by _yb2s » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 4:59 PM UTC

gregschlom wrote: post #2

I've been reading No Mud, No Lotus recently ( https://www.parallax.org/product/no-mud-no-lotus/ ) by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh and this is very much the same advice. This book has brought me immense joy, I'd recommend it to anyone. It's fascinating how much Buddhism has gotten "right".

This article is about ACT which borrows these techniques from the ancient stoics, but there is a lot of similarities between stoicism and buddhism, zen especially.

Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by faeyanpiraat » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 5:01 PM UTC

begueradj wrote: post #3

Can't read the article from phone.

That must be annoying

Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by Aurornis » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 5:03 PM UTC

begueradj wrote: post #3

Can't read the article from phone.

For what it’s worth, site works without problems on iPhone.

Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by m_a_g » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 5:05 PM UTC

ndr42 wrote: post #4

From the article: Micro-stressors such as running late [...] represent the unavoidable pain that comes with being human. Is running late really unavoidable? I think there are proven strategies to avoid it. (My wife and one of my sons on the other hand would agree that it is in fact unavoidable) Edit: added missing word

In the long run, it is unavoidable. No matter how prepared you are, there will be something that will cause you to run late. It's just a matter of how frequently this happens.

Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by mercanlIl » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 5:05 PM UTC

ndr42 wrote: post #4

From the article: Micro-stressors such as running late [...] represent the unavoidable pain that comes with being human. Is running late really unavoidable? I think there are proven strategies to avoid it. (My wife and one of my sons on the other hand would agree that it is in fact unavoidable) Edit: added missing word

In practice? Yes it’s unavoidable. Unless you build in enough buffer to account for _every_ possible scenario out of your control, the probability of running late is non-zero.

Re: How to tolerate annoying things

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Post by cm2012 » Sat, Nov 15, 2025, 5:05 PM UTC

ndr42 wrote: post #4

From the article: Micro-stressors such as running late [...] represent the unavoidable pain that comes with being human. Is running late really unavoidable? I think there are proven strategies to avoid it. (My wife and one of my sons on the other hand would agree that it is in fact unavoidable) Edit: added missing word

I think 15% of people have a true mental block on timing