Root for your friends
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#2And here I was cynically thinking I was going to learn how to "get root" on my friends.
Still applies I guess.
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#3And here I was cynically thinking I was going to learn how to "get root" on my friends. Still applies I guess.
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#4For a long time, I’ve been this person for other people, but don’t feel like I have anybody to do this for me. That’s okay — I don’t feel bitter about that or anything. And I don’t wanna overstate what a good friend I am or whatever, I just do this a decent amount. But some part of me does wish I had someone celebrating my wins.
This:
“No one comes to mind? Maybe you haven’t really trusted anyone with your wins yet.”
really, really hit me for some reason. I’m pretty averse to praise/congratulations — even if I feel it’s deserved! — so I don’t really share my wins with people. How can I expect to have people hype me up if I don’t let them in a little? It’s obvious when I write it all out but I kinda can’t believe how long I’ve been operating this way.
Anyway, great post!
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#5I kinda had this maybe assembled in my head in an incomplete bits and pieces way but this really brought together the concept I love it.
Whoever wrote this post is really rocking with the clear human thinking.
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#6I largely agree, this is a great way to support your friends.
I would add to bias towards praise, but still be honest and judicious. People know when they hear empty words, and it's important to be trustworthy.
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#7And here I was cynically thinking I was going to learn how to "get root" on my friends. Still applies I guess.
As an Australian, "Root for your friends" has a hilariously alternate meaning.
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#8Blogger says it’s better to be positive than negative. Could that be the case? Is it really so? Yes. And further. Thinking good thoughts is better than thinking bad thoughts about yourself or others. It’s also better to give meaningful feedback on projects. Than not meaningful feedback.
“This is a message that a lot of people need to hear,” says blogger.
Here’s some memes from 2012 to now.
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#9For a long time, I’ve been this person for other people, but don’t feel like I have anybody to do this for me. That’s okay — I don’t feel bitter about that or anything. And I don’t wanna overstate what a good friend I am or whatever, I just do this a decent amount. But some part of me does wish I had someone celebrating my wins. This: “No one comes to mind? Maybe you haven’t really trusted anyone with your wins yet.”…
I’m so glad that line helped. It was a last minute addition, and I was thinking about how so many of my friends just don’t share the awesome stuff they do with the world. Share more!!
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#10I largely agree, this is a great way to support your friends. I would add to bias towards praise, but still be honest and judicious. People know when they hear empty words, and it's important to be trustworthy.
Yeah i only put the one line in there that talks about that:
> people who are honest to your face and praise you behind your back.
I could have emphasized that more.