Don't fear getting fired if you have ADHD
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Don't fear getting fired if you have ADHD
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#2As an employee with ADHD, I found this rather unhelpful. Some of us do have to work for a living, and getting fired can have very serious consequences on our lives.
For a lot of us, avoiding (or increasing the likelihood of avoiding) being perceived by our employers as "lazy, careless, unreliable, or defensive" is often worth the exhaustion of trying.
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#3As an employee with ADHD, I found this rather unhelpful. Some of us do have to work for a living, and getting fired can have very serious consequences on our lives. For a lot of us, avoiding (or increasing the likelihood of avoiding) being perceived by our employers as "lazy, careless, unreliable, or defensive" is often worth the exhaustion of trying.
yeah
>Regularly ask yourself: "Will worrying about this job matter two years from now?"
This is particular. I've never had a job that didn't matter to me.. why would i work if i did not have to?
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#4Sure, getting fired isn't the worst, it's the inability to pay your mortgage that is suboptimal.
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#5I don’t have adhd, but if I did, article left me hanging
Problem: “ American workplaces are typically designed for neurotypical individuals who are committed to a strict Protestant work ethic, expecting consistent focus and steady performance.”
Solution: “ Reflect on what drains your energy and what fuels you, and use those insights to find roles that align better with your needs.”
That advice literally can apply to anyone. The author is just telling me not to worry about losing my job, jobs come and go, etc. but losing a job is a big deal, it can be hard AF to find one. And now he’s telling me that “most” places are set up against how I’m naturally wired.
What am I supposed to do with that?
It would’ve been more helpful if author had included some pointers on types of companies or roles that are more supportive of people with ADHD traits. Or at least tell me about where he landed up. Give me some hope, vs leaving me hanging!
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#6Sure, getting fired isn't the worst, it's the inability to pay your mortgage that is suboptimal.
'Let them eat cake.'
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#7“American workplaces are typically designed for neurotypical individuals who are committed to a strict Protestant work ethic, expecting consistent focus and steady performance.”
In that case shouldn’t you fear getting fired as the next job will inevitably have the same issues but you will have to go through the hiring slog in the meantime?
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#8I have ADHD. I would love to be able to just wish my worries away.
But I can't. It takes work... therapy, medication, exercise, trying to be mindful of the tools I have acquired through CBT and applying then where relevant. Despite all of this, one little thing is sometimes enough for me to fall into an anxiety pit. Ruminations then lock onto a source of worry, and that's it, I know what I'm going to be doing the rest of the day.
Don't get me wrong, I wholeheartedly agree with the post. That said, when my immigration status and my entire life as I have known it for 7 years relies on my employment, not to be anxious and fearful is hard. Sometimes there are valid reasons to be worried that go beyond one's worth in the workplace, and those cannot be rationalized away.
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#9Sure, getting fired isn't the worst, it's the inability to pay your mortgage that is suboptimal.
you should think of not being able to pay your mortgage as an incompatibility of your finances and your bank's desires. it's not a personal failure on your part--ignore those stupid payments if need be
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