Facebook (De) Friend Awkwardness

#1

Post by eintnohick » Mon, Jun 18, 2012, 6:24 PM UTC

So I've noticed recently that a few people that I've been Facebook friends with are no longer friends. These are people that I'm not real good friends with but actually do hang out with from time to time via mutual friends. Every time I see one of them, I feel a mutual awkwardness.

I've read stories of FB friends disappearing due to the lack of db reliability and such so I'm not sure if either party actually de-friended the other.

Anyone else encounter this weird situation or have any insight about it? I can't think of any reason why any of these people would de-friend me.

Re: Facebook (De) Friend Awkwardness

#2

Post by yashchandra » Mon, Jun 18, 2012, 7:09 PM UTC

"I can't think of any reason why any of these people would de-friend me." I am actually on the opposite side. I have so many fb friends that I wonder if they should actually be my friends on fb since I hardly havae any context remaining with them (met them during college etc. but never kept in touch afterwards).Yours is a nice problem to have.

Re: Facebook (De) Friend Awkwardness

#3

Post by dllthomas » Mon, Jun 18, 2012, 11:18 PM UTC

If you only see them occasionally, they were probably just cleaning up their list. Stop being so sensitive.

Re: Facebook (De) Friend Awkwardness

#4

Post by AznHisoka » Mon, Jun 18, 2012, 11:19 PM UTC

You care too much about what other people think... I defriended tons of people, some I even see everyday. The awkwardness is created by you feeling awkward about it. Just don't give a damn, and it's no longer awkward

Re: Facebook (De) Friend Awkwardness

#5

Post by Jstoffs » Tue, Jun 19, 2012, 12:28 AM UTC

doesn't that option work the same as a file or something posted on somebody's wall

Re: Facebook (De) Friend Awkwardness

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Post by ajaymenonk » Wed, Jun 20, 2012, 10:05 AM UTC

Think of it as you are reducing clutter in your personal life. If these people are not really important, then they must not be really important. If someone was really a good friend, they would definitely tell you what they feel about it.

Re: Facebook (De) Friend Awkwardness

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Post by headShrinker » Wed, Jun 20, 2012, 2:40 PM UTC

AznHisoka wrote: post #4

You care too much about what other people think... I defriended tons of people, some I even see everyday. The awkwardness is created by you feeling awkward about it. Just don't give a damn, and it's no longer awkward

This is a great answer for more than just FB defriending.

* awkwardness is created by you feeling awkward about it

I had a bad case of this for a long time, it still comes back from time to time.