Starting Hospice

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Post by jdkee » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 3:35 AM UTC

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by jseliger » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:24 AM UTC

Hacker News, thank you for all the links and all the great reading. Now I have to say goodbye.

I’m with my wife Bess (https://bessstillman.substack.com/) and my brother Sam, and crying, but it is okay. At the end of Lord of the Rings Gandalf says to the hobbits, "Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.” And that is how I feel now. Ending prematurely hurts, but all things must end, and my time to end is upon me.

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by isotropy » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:28 AM UTC

jseliger wrote: post #2

Hacker News, thank you for all the links and all the great reading. Now I have to say goodbye. I’m with my wife Bess ( https://bessstillman.substack.com/ ) and my brother Sam, and crying, but it is okay. At the end of Lord of the Rings Gandalf says to the hobbits, "Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.” And that is how I feel now. Ending prematurely hurts, but all things must end, a…

Thank you for sharing so much of yourself with us these past months.

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by wheelerwj » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:36 AM UTC

“I wish it need not have happened in my time," said Frodo. "So do I," said Gandalf, "and so do all who live to see such times. But that is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the time that is given us.”

Godspeed, enjoy your family.

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by block_dagger » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:37 AM UTC

jseliger wrote: post #2

Hacker News, thank you for all the links and all the great reading. Now I have to say goodbye. I’m with my wife Bess ( https://bessstillman.substack.com/ ) and my brother Sam, and crying, but it is okay. At the end of Lord of the Rings Gandalf says to the hobbits, "Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.” And that is how I feel now. Ending prematurely hurts, but all things must end, a…

Gandalf also said, "End? No, the journey doesn't end here. Death is just another path, one that we all must take. The grey rain-curtain of this world rolls back, and all turns to silver glass, and then you see it."

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by voisin » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:42 AM UTC

jseliger wrote: post #2

Hacker News, thank you for all the links and all the great reading. Now I have to say goodbye. I’m with my wife Bess ( https://bessstillman.substack.com/ ) and my brother Sam, and crying, but it is okay. At the end of Lord of the Rings Gandalf says to the hobbits, "Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.” And that is how I feel now. Ending prematurely hurts, but all things must end, a…

Jake, I am so, so sorry for everything you’ve gone through and wish peace for you and the best for your loved ones. I’ve followed your story here and always been touched by your candor. Thank you for all your contributions. I was rooting for a better outcome and am sorry that it hasn’t arrived. Goodbye.

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by SOLAR_FIELDS » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:44 AM UTC

jseliger wrote: post #2

Hacker News, thank you for all the links and all the great reading. Now I have to say goodbye. I’m with my wife Bess ( https://bessstillman.substack.com/ ) and my brother Sam, and crying, but it is okay. At the end of Lord of the Rings Gandalf says to the hobbits, "Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.” And that is how I feel now. Ending prematurely hurts, but all things must end, a…

See you in another life, brother. So long, and thanks for all the fish.

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by sudohackthenews » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:50 AM UTC

Thanks for everything Jake. I only have a vague understanding of what you are going through after seeing my grandma go through some of the same things, yet I still can’t imagine how hard it is for you and your family.

Wishing you and Bess all the best and if you or her need anything feel free to reach out. Godspeed

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by bfdm » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:51 AM UTC

jseliger wrote: post #2

Hacker News, thank you for all the links and all the great reading. Now I have to say goodbye. I’m with my wife Bess ( https://bessstillman.substack.com/ ) and my brother Sam, and crying, but it is okay. At the end of Lord of the Rings Gandalf says to the hobbits, "Go in peace! I will not say: do not weep; for not all tears are an evil.” And that is how I feel now. Ending prematurely hurts, but all things must end, a…

Thanks for sharing your journey with the world. I haven't read them all, but I have read several and while terrifying I know they will help others navigating similar journeys.

Rest well and all the love for those close to you.

Re: Starting Hospice

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Post by geocrasher » Mon, Aug 05, 2024, 4:57 AM UTC

3 and 1/2 years ago I lost my mate prematurely. A long protracted illness with much pain and suffering. I'm sorry for you and your wife are going through and have gone through. It is very hard.

There were a lot of things that helped me through. If your wife would ever like to talk to someone who's been through it, even though I'm a guy, she is always welcome to reach out to me.

Username at gmail.