How to communicate when trust is low without digging yourself into a deeper hole
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#2How timely. My boss just crucified a co-worker today in our meeting and I think something like this could help mend things.
Yes, my boss never heard of "praise in public criticize in private". Welcome to working with a hot-blooded eastern european
Re: How to communicate when trust is low without digging yourself into a deeper hole
#3How timely. My boss just crucified a co-worker today in our meeting and I think something like this could help mend things. Yes, my boss never heard of " praise in public criticize in private ". Welcome to working with a hot-blooded eastern european
Management by perkele!
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#5This is such a great blog post. I wish I had read this ten years ago.
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#6How timely. My boss just crucified a co-worker today in our meeting and I think something like this could help mend things. Yes, my boss never heard of " praise in public criticize in private ". Welcome to working with a hot-blooded eastern european
Very timely for me as well, have been having tough time with my partner especially about how unfriendly and critical I sound, even though my intentions are for general improvement and well being around home.
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#7Great read. Another helpful cue I give myself is "The opt-in". Always give your partner the chance to opt-in to the conversation.
Opt-ins can be subtle or explicit relative to the heaviness. Opt-in can be a simple pause allowing the other person to volley back. A chance to follow up with questions, contribute, or change the subject heh. TONS of people don't do this. myself included. Take a beat.
For hard conversations, explicitly ask them if they are are ok talking about X, or if they have time: "hey I wanted to talk about the fight last night, do you have time now?"
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#8This is good advice. :)
I'm not sure how much it helps when the low trust is one sided.
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#9How timely. My boss just crucified a co-worker today in our meeting and I think something like this could help mend things. Yes, my boss never heard of " praise in public criticize in private ". Welcome to working with a hot-blooded eastern european
Very timely for me as well, have been having tough time with my partner especially about how unfriendly and critical I sound, even though my intentions are for general improvement and well being around home.
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#10I thought I was going to like this, but other than 'Give people the opening to do better' section, the advised interactions seem not great to me?
e.g.
I want to say something, but I am having a hard time with it.
I have something to say, but I don’t know how you’ll take it.
I need to tell you something and I am anxious about your reaction.
… or check in afterwards.