‘Preparing to die has a lot to do with having had a good life’
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‘Preparing to die has a lot to do with having had a good life’
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#2This article seems like something I should read, but I'm not sure if I want to. As someone with parents and inlaws who are in their early to mid 70s and quite worried about losing them, I'm not sure if I'm ready to read this.
Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the pre-loss anxiety?
Re: ‘Preparing to die has a lot to do with having had a good life’
#3This article seems like something I should read, but I'm not sure if I want to. As someone with parents and inlaws who are in their early to mid 70s and quite worried about losing them, I'm not sure if I'm ready to read this. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the pre-loss anxiety?
I don't necessarily have anything for pre-loss anxiety, but I did suddenly lose my dad. As in talked to him the day before and he was feeling a little sick and the next day I learned that he had died alone in his home. Without going into some of the sadder details, I can tell you what helped the most.
I felt complete in our relationship in the moment. I still have times when I wish I could share something with him. But, I felt like I had really vocalized the love I had for him. I love you doesn't really count in my mind, but being specific about how they make you feel loved and how you love them. And secondly, I had accepted/forgiven him for anything that wasn't in that love category.
That feeling of being complete was really nice to have after his sudden passing. It didn't take away the sadness and missing him, but I didn't feel the regret that I've heard others do.
So, my suggestion would be to express the specific love you feel for your parents and in laws to them and forgive or accept them in the other things. I hope this helps somehow or at least makes some nice moments in your family.
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#4This article seems like something I should read, but I'm not sure if I want to. As someone with parents and inlaws who are in their early to mid 70s and quite worried about losing them, I'm not sure if I'm ready to read this. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the pre-loss anxiety?
One of my very good friends is old enough to be my grandfather.
I'm pretty comfortable with the idea of death, so I don't get anxious per-se. But it's still a very melancholy thing to think about.
I just do as much as I can with him and try not to get distracted by it.
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#5This article seems like something I should read, but I'm not sure if I want to. As someone with parents and inlaws who are in their early to mid 70s and quite worried about losing them, I'm not sure if I'm ready to read this. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the pre-loss anxiety?
Do the work to spend the time with them before you no longer have the option.
Enjoy them.
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#6This article seems like something I should read, but I'm not sure if I want to. As someone with parents and inlaws who are in their early to mid 70s and quite worried about losing them, I'm not sure if I'm ready to read this. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the pre-loss anxiety?
Short (25m) wordless art film, https://nbhap.com/sounds/the-national-mike-mills-i-am-easy-t...
> We are born, we live and then we all die. And in-between a lot of spectacular things can happen. Or maybe not. Sounds harsh when you put it like this, right? But there’s an undeniable and for many people uncomfortable truth in this and I Am Easy To Find is a film that transports that feeling pretty well.
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#7This article seems like something I should read, but I'm not sure if I want to. As someone with parents and inlaws who are in their early to mid 70s and quite worried about losing them, I'm not sure if I'm ready to read this. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the pre-loss anxiety?
I did a lot of listening to the griefcast (podcast with comedians talking about people they lost) recently which I think helped me. No idea if that's good advice and the people on it skew heavily uk centric so you might not know any of them. Good luck!
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#8This article seems like something I should read, but I'm not sure if I want to. As someone with parents and inlaws who are in their early to mid 70s and quite worried about losing them, I'm not sure if I'm ready to read this. Does anyone have any tips on how to deal with the pre-loss anxiety?
Short (25m) wordless art film, https://nbhap.com/sounds/the-national-mike-mills-i-am-easy-t... > We are born, we live and then we all die. And in-between a lot of spectacular things can happen. Or maybe not. Sounds harsh when you put it like this, right? But there’s an undeniable and for many people uncomfortable truth in this and I Am Easy To Find is a film that transports that feeling pretty well.
That was a really beautiful film.
Re: ‘Preparing to die has a lot to do with having had a good life’
#9“30 years ago I would have died of cancer; now I will die with cancer, but not of cancer.”
And 30-100 years from now, the same cancer will be cured.
It’s simply a matter of the human race deciding when to cure cancers.
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#10My favorite thing around the subject of death is The Grief Walker. Highly recommend anyone watch this. Don't forget to get tissues before you start.