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Re: Couples therapy for startup co-founders

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If you need therapy with your business partner, cut your losses and move on.

If you think therapy should be reserved for dire, nigh unfixable problems, then maybe. But you can also use therapy as a regular part of life for fixing problems big and small.

Re: Couples therapy for startup co-founders

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If you need therapy with your business partner, cut your losses and move on.

If you think therapy should be reserved for dire, nigh unfixable problems, then maybe. But you can also use therapy as a regular part of life for fixing problems big and small.

It’s a sign of deeper problems if you can’t communicate with your (work) partner well enough to avoid these issues.

Your job isn’t a marriage and the analogy falls flat. If you’re having enough communicative difficulties that you’re considering failure, then you’re already enough in the shit that one or both of you need to move on.

Re: Couples therapy for startup co-founders

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Earlier quoted context omitted.

If you think therapy should be reserved for dire, nigh unfixable problems, then maybe. But you can also use therapy as a regular part of life for fixing problems big and small.

It’s a sign of deeper problems if you can’t communicate with your (work) partner well enough to avoid these issues. Your job isn’t a marriage and the analogy falls flat. If you’re having enough communicative difficulties that you’re considering failure, then you’re already enough in the shit that one or both of you need to move on.

And when your startup encounters business issues, do you just cut your losses and pick the next idea?

Of course not. You work through problems when there's value on the other side of the problem, and communications problems are just one class of problems that may crop up in an otherwise highly valuable relationship. You hire people to help you solve other issues you don't have the experience to solve, don't you? The same SME is valuable in communications.

Re: Couples therapy for startup co-founders

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If you need therapy with your business partner, cut your losses and move on.

People aren't born with communication skills, if you're going to quit because of interpersonal problems rather than look for a difficult and potentially uncomfortable solution, you shouldn't be starting a business.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200407/rock-arou...

I would bet this is much more common then you seem to think.

Re: Couples therapy for startup co-founders

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post #7

If you need therapy with your business partner, cut your losses and move on.

People aren't born with communication skills, if you're going to quit because of interpersonal problems rather than look for a difficult and potentially uncomfortable solution, you shouldn't be starting a business. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/200407/rock-arou... I would bet this is much more common then you seem to think.

You're not wrong, but not every problem needs to be solved and there are 8 billion people. In my experience it's usually better to align yourself with those you communicate well with, and avoid the ones you don't.

Re: Couples therapy for startup co-founders

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Is “cofounder coaching" all that different from a service a management consultant might typically perform? In any event, getting in the same room together and listening without interrupting seems like a pretty fundamental part of improving a relationship, no matter what that's called.
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