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Ha, fictional stories are so much better right?
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#5The Chinese for traffic light is red-green-light (hónglǜdēng).
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#6This anecdote is a ridiculously great example of something I’ve found to be VERY VERY IMPORTANT with parenting (and probably lots else.)
You must be incredibly delicate with “wrong” answers otherwise you might gaslight, discourage, or otherwise mess with your child’s ontology.
I’ve learned to ask “why do you think that?” When I get a “confident wrong answer” as I call them. A surprising amount of the time my child has some very rational explanation.
Someone once told me, “most arguments among engineers boils down to communication. Usually you’re not arguing about the exact same thing.” These moments with my child really made me grok that.
I wish “being wrong with an explanation” was rewarded the way it should be when I was a kid.
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#7The Chinese for traffic light is red-green-light (hónglǜdēng).
Interesting. It's 신호등(shin ho deung) and 信号灯(shin go tou) in Korea and Japan. Both literally meaning signal(信号, 신호) light(등, 灯), so I would have thought Chinese would use something similiar (I can see 灯 is being used). I wonder why that happened. Maybe because red is an auspicious color? Or maybe because the word may have originated from Japan and they wanted a different word? or maybe simply because that's what people started to call it and it stuck?
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#8>>Now just think about the conversation from his point of view.
Bad parents don't do this one simple thing.
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#9This anecdote is a ridiculously great example of something I’ve found to be VERY VERY IMPORTANT with parenting (and probably lots else.) You must be incredibly delicate with “wrong” answers otherwise you might gaslight, discourage, or otherwise mess with your child’s ontology. I’ve learned to ask “why do you think that?” When I get a “confident wrong answer” as I call them. A surprising amount of the time my child ha…
I think it would be worthwhile to ask "why do you think that?" on some confident correct assertions as well. Will help with collaborating on developing the child's use of rationality in case they're right for the wrong reasons, and also to avoid overly associating being asked why with being wrong.
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#10This anecdote is a ridiculously great example of something I’ve found to be VERY VERY IMPORTANT with parenting (and probably lots else.) You must be incredibly delicate with “wrong” answers otherwise you might gaslight, discourage, or otherwise mess with your child’s ontology. I’ve learned to ask “why do you think that?” When I get a “confident wrong answer” as I call them. A surprising amount of the time my child ha…
Note that (AFAIK), for adults, "why" can get you the wrong response (puts people on the defensive), so (AFAIK) it's recommended to use "what" instead (which tends to get at the "why" you wanted in the first place) -
"why do you think that?" -> "what led to you thinking that?"
:shrug: It works, sooooo.