What you learned after having kids that questioned the decision of having kids?

I am looking for Male perspective on this issue because obviously I am man and we have whole different priorities in life. Not same world honestly like women.

What things you learned after having kids that you wish would have known before having kids and would have made you to change decision of having kids?

It will make you a better person. There's nothing easy about it.

You'll have less time for selfish things.

Your self control will be challenged as you try to maintain composure in many challenging situations. Some that involve diaper blowouts at 3am, the night before a big presentation.

You'll be forced to adapt as your lifestyle changes. Old friends without kids will invite you out less. You'll find new friends with kids. The practicality of things like minivans will become alluring.

You'll become more persuasive. If you can convince a 3 year old to eat broccoli, you can sell ice to eskimos.

The only thing I realized after having kids was how in the hell did I ever live without them. There was nothing more rewarding in my life than having children and both my wife and I had very rewarding careers.

It boils down to the type of person you are. Are you someone who can love your children more than yourself? If not then I would suggest not having children.

> Try to read/watch the news every day for some time.

Never ever do that. Healthy or sick it's just a bad idea ESPECIALLY right now. Put your mental health first and work on things you can actually affect.

Don't have children just to keep your spouse. And this goes both for him and for her. That's all I have to say.