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Re: So you've made a mistake and it's public

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> What should I do when I see someone else is making a mistake?

> When you see others making mistakes, first help them see their mistakes and deal with them (e.g. by recycling this text, or by independently offering your analysis and answers to Steps 1 and 2 above).

> Remember you make mistakes too, and be tolerant of the time it may take people to accept that they have made a mistake. (But you don't need to allow them to insist they have not made a mistake.)

I especially appreciate this. Far too often I see people reacting to people's mistakes with anger and hostility, instead of first trying to 1) understand the situation, and 2) help the person who made the mistake (if there even was one) understand the mistake.

A little kindness goes a long way.

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Re: So you've made a mistake and it's public

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> What should I do when I see someone else is making a mistake? > When you see others making mistakes, first help them see their mistakes and deal with them (e.g. by recycling this text, or by independently offering your analysis and answers to Steps 1 and 2 above). > Remember you make mistakes too, and be tolerant of the time it may take people to accept that they have made a mistake. (But you don't need to allow th…

The funny thing is, if you ponder for a while, you'll realize you'd have done some similar mistakes. But such reflection requires being honest to oneself and setting aside/rising above one's ego and doing an unbias reflection for few moments. Then a spontaneous smile will light up your face and unconsciously somewhere you've broken some string of ego otherwise holding you tightly all through your life.

Re: So you've made a mistake and it's public

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> What should I do when I see someone else is making a mistake? > When you see others making mistakes, first help them see their mistakes and deal with them (e.g. by recycling this text, or by independently offering your analysis and answers to Steps 1 and 2 above). > Remember you make mistakes too, and be tolerant of the time it may take people to accept that they have made a mistake. (But you don't need to allow th…

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Re: So you've made a mistake and it's public

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I find it helpful when writing apology posts to start it by writing down the timeline of events. Don’t insert any commentary attempting to justify anything in this part, it just comes off as defensive. Instead just outline what happened though you can include the immediate cause of decisions you made.

“Because I was worried about how people would react to X I decided to do Y”

Then after that you can write all the stuff that they list in this post.

I think it helps a lot to get the audience into the same situation you where in in their minds before understanding the context of how you actually screwed up.

Re: So you've made a mistake and it's public

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I like that.

I'm quite good at apologizing, because I need to do it so often. I get lots of practice.

The American abhorrence for admitting fault and/or apologizing is quite mystifying to me. It's really corrosive.

I've spent 40 years, promptly admitting mistakes, and repairing, where possible.

WFM. YMMV.

Re: So you've made a mistake and it's public

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I like that. I'm quite good at apologizing, because I need to do it so often. I get lots of practice. The American abhorrence for admitting fault and/or apologizing is quite mystifying to me. It's really corrosive. I've spent 40 years, promptly admitting mistakes, and repairing, where possible. WFM. YMMV.

Perhaps this has to do with lawsuits.
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