The Secret to a Happy Marriage: Do the Dishes, Put Out, Don’t Talk So Much
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Edit: Working link, courtesy mhb http://blogs.wsj.com/ideas-market/2011/02/14/the-secret-to-a...
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#4I've been following the author's blog at http://www.spousonomics.com/ - some fluff, but in general it's pretty good.
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#5Then party like it's 1950.
ETA: With the growing number of men who refuse to pick up every check, plan every date/event, act as sole provider for the family, purchase gifts regularly for their other half, etc. for fear of marrying a woman who is too focused on money... I'm really beginning to wonder what women are getting out of this marriage deal anymore.
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#6That's exactly what I do, and my wife and I agree that we have a pretty happy marriage :-)
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#7"But the real reason [married people gain weight] is moral hazard, or the tendency to take more risks and behave more irresponsibly when there are no consequences."
I'd never equated being overweight as behaving irresponsibly. If everyone thought this way, would we all be thinner? If my spouse can't nag me to lose weight (see #1), is there anything she could do to encourage it, or is it all on me?
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#8I would group it all into one tip:
Make an effort with your relationship.
Like everything good in life it takes work to have a good relationship. If you make an effort to have a good relationship, applying thought and energy day to day, you will grow a healthy satisfying relationship.
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#9Comparative advantage is the name of the game. My parents have been doing that for years, even when my mom ends up with some manly work (tall house + lots of Christmas lights) and my dad ends up with some non-manly work. It works pretty well for them.
They even optimized which kid helps them, I worked better with my mom (I was all about getting a list of chores and powering through them when I had time, and so is she), so I ended up working with her for the weekly chores. Shutting up and getting stuff done really does make one happy.
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#10The secret to writing a linkbait title: reinforce stereotypes.