Some people are uncomfortable with touchers. Should they set the rules?
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Some people are uncomfortable with touchers. Should they set the rules?
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Re: Some people are uncomfortable with touchers. Should they set the rules?
#2Yes, they should.
Re: Some people are uncomfortable with touchers. Should they set the rules?
#3It's not just the potential sexual threat that generates discomfort. A friendly pat on the shoulder can also be interpreted as a dominance display.
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#4Non-paywalled https://outline.com/hefKak
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#5Feels like a slippery slope. Someone will always feel uncomfortable with something.
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#6In some countries/regions touching is part of the local culture and withdrawing or wincing after being touched is perceived as being anti-social. It contributes to the perception of certain nationalities and cultures as being "cold", which is not a criticism but merely an observation. In the West we appear to be slowly but surely moving to a non-touching culture.
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#7Are there rules for eye contact? Some people are uncomfortable with eye contact.
Re: Some people are uncomfortable with touchers. Should they set the rules?
#8Are there rules for eye contact? Some people are uncomfortable with eye contact.
And some people are uncomfortable with avoidance of eye contact. Or with the use of a veil or similar covering. Or with the non-use of such a covering.
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#9> Humans require social touch, but the rules that govern its deployment are not biologically determined...
On the contrary; social touch, with the ensuing spectrum between "discomfort/aggression/dominance" and "affiliation/friendship/social comfort" is actually found in all social mammals, it has nothing to do with society, gender, sexual undertones or anything human-specific like that! Even domesticated cats http://esr.ibiblio.org/?p=5962 http://esr.ibiblio.org/?p=1771 have a basic, instinct-driven understanding of how the aforementioned spectrum should be carefully negotiated if one is to establish a genuinely-experienced social bond.
I'm sorry but yes, per the above, Biden's "touchy-feely" behavior with strangers has indeed been singularly clueless, even unintentionally creepy and disturbing, in neglecting these obvious facts. Biden is one of the major figures in U.S. politics and obviously socially competent - he has no excuse for this.
Re: Some people are uncomfortable with touchers. Should they set the rules?
#10It's not just the potential sexual threat that generates discomfort. A friendly pat on the shoulder can also be interpreted as a dominance display.
The cat is out of the bag, can we please let this piece of poppsych die? A surprisingly large number of manager wannabe type at a FAANG company made a point to try to pat me on the back in public. Please stop trying to symbolically stomp on people you'd like on your team, it's demeaning. Especially for yourself.