I Lied When I Said We Did Everything We Could
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I Lied When I Said We Did Everything We Could
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#2Wonderful article.
This is a not-uncommon situation in end of life care. It's difficult for a family to accept a tragedy like this, a loved young woman dying in the prime of her life from something untreatable. The families often are in almost some sort of denial (understandably, I'm saying that without judgment) and demand that everything be tried, even when it's futile and ends up making the situation worse like in this case. Medical community has been working on trying to change this for years, but ultimately it seems to me like it's a cultural thing as well.
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#3Does anyone else go through like 6 different redirects before they land on the article?
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#4 Turn the light's out
when you're leaving.
I want to
watch the car park empty.
It's easy,
when they're strangers.
To wave goodbye.Re: I Lied When I Said We Did Everything We Could
#5What is "the code" in this context? The article masterfully reveals details slowly over time, but I don't want to lean on my own understanding of what that means.
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#6What is "the code" in this context? The article masterfully reveals details slowly over time, but I don't want to lean on my own understanding of what that means.
Doctors often use the term as slang for a cardiopulmonary arrest happening to a patient in a hospital or clinic, requiring a team of providers (sometimes called a code team) to rush to the specific location and begin immediate resuscitative efforts.
https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/code-blue-code-black-wha...
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#7What is "the code" in this context? The article masterfully reveals details slowly over time, but I don't want to lean on my own understanding of what that means.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hospital_emergency_codes#Code_...
Code blue is not literally used everywhere... many places in the US use a number these days like 99 for "Blue" and then other memorable two digit numbers for more specific, less emergent needs like respiratory support or rapid response. Same thing.
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#8Does anyone else go through like 6 different redirects before they land on the article?
The HN special: don't comment on the great, heartfelt article; instead be pedantic about redirects.
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#9What is "the code" in this context? The article masterfully reveals details slowly over time, but I don't want to lean on my own understanding of what that means.
Doctors often use the term as slang for a cardiopulmonary arrest happening to a patient in a hospital or clinic, requiring a team of providers (sometimes called a code team) to rush to the specific location and begin immediate resuscitative efforts. https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/code-blue-code-black-wha...
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#10Wonderful article. This is a not-uncommon situation in end of life care. It's difficult for a family to accept a tragedy like this, a loved young woman dying in the prime of her life from something untreatable. The families often are in almost some sort of denial (understandably, I'm saying that without judgment) and demand that everything be tried, even when it's futile and ends up making the situation worse like in…
> The families often are in almost some sort of denial
It was like pulling teeth to try to get doctors to tell me anything realistic.
I don't get the impression that anyone in the medical community is trying to change this.
Unlike my other family members, I had seen this person once a month obviously deteriorating in line with what every prognosis and statistic would say. My other family members were there every day and couldn't or weren't willing to see the progression. This isn't a movie with a pleasant ending. The only hope is for the suffering to end, from my perspective, and in hindsight, yes, it was a spot on analysis.
With regard to the doctors, now that part was just like in the movies. They hemmed and hawed and made sad empathic expressions, but didn't explain the possibilities at all. They just assume everyone is in a state of stupor, they probably assumed my rapid conclusions were some desensitized state of shock, just as they assumed my other family members clinging to hope was an equally dismissible state of denial.