Ask HN: What books/activities do you recommended for being more charismatic?

One of my big goals for 2019 is to become more charming and charismatic. What resources have helped you guys?

One that helped me a lot personally was this book "never split the difference"

The charisma Myth

What always strikes me when people talk about their interactions with charismatic people, is that they often say that the charismatic person seems genuinely interested in the person they're talking to, and that they make them feel like the most important person in the room.

So I'm starting to think that maybe that's an important key to charisma: being genuinely interested in the person you're talking with, and making them feel important, loved and understood.

I haven't applied it myself, though.

I feel you are on the right track. Early in my life, I was definitely not interested in people.

Time spent in the perdorming arts, usually filled with high charisma types, changed that a little. And I picked up a lot of basic people skills.

Later, sales directly, as well as pre-sales and related work led to qualification. Those who do that well are high value. Cost of sales can go nuts without solid qualification.

And there it was. A primary motivation to better understand people. Some 20 years of that, all manner of companies, departments, leaders and I do often have a genuine interest in other people.

Charisma came up and improved as those skills and interests did.