The Secret Reason Why Your Life Is Boring
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The Secret Reason Why Your Life Is Boring
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#2I understand that they are proposing it more as a general exercise, but I'm pretty sure that failing to have a conversation with every person who asks me for money on the street isn't actually making my life boring. Also, I can't imagine anyone actually saying the words, “I am determined to make new friends tonight and I bet you are just the kind of people who make good friends.”
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#3I understand that they are proposing it more as a general exercise, but I'm pretty sure that failing to have a conversation with every person who asks me for money on the street isn't actually making my life boring. Also, I can't imagine anyone actually saying the words, “I am determined to make new friends tonight and I bet you are just the kind of people who make good friends.”
I don't think the article is actually saying that. It's saying we need to be cognizant of why we make decisions and avoid situations.
We are controlled by fear a lot more than we realise (or at least, that's what i got out of the article).
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#4> Look the homeless guy in the eye, tell him you can’t give him money (or maybe you can – your choice), but ask him his name
I tried something like this, and it just seemed to piss homeless people off most of the time. It's like, if you build a personal connection, then they really expect you to give them something.
I believe in giving money to responsible charities rather than to individuals, but I thought it'd be cool to treat homeless people with some respect and humanity. Unfortunately, trying to do that without giving change/food/whatever seemed to produce an undesirable reaction for all parties involved.
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#5Damn. I read the first bullet point list and everything was somewhat valid for me.
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#6> Look the homeless guy in the eye, tell him you can’t give him money (or maybe you can – your choice), but ask him his name I tried something like this, and it just seemed to piss homeless people off most of the time. It's like, if you build a personal connection, then they really expect you to give them something. I believe in giving money to responsible charities rather than to individuals, but I thought it'd be c…
The ones that just want money to drink don't want a personal connection. They want your change, or a beer.
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#7I understand that they are proposing it more as a general exercise, but I'm pretty sure that failing to have a conversation with every person who asks me for money on the street isn't actually making my life boring. Also, I can't imagine anyone actually saying the words, “I am determined to make new friends tonight and I bet you are just the kind of people who make good friends.”
I don't think the article is actually saying that. It's saying we need to be cognizant of why we make decisions and avoid situations. We are controlled by fear a lot more than we realise (or at least, that's what i got out of the article).
I think it's saying that we should buy a pack of their cards.
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#8I understand that they are proposing it more as a general exercise, but I'm pretty sure that failing to have a conversation with every person who asks me for money on the street isn't actually making my life boring. Also, I can't imagine anyone actually saying the words, “I am determined to make new friends tonight and I bet you are just the kind of people who make good friends.”
I don't think the article is actually saying that. It's saying we need to be cognizant of why we make decisions and avoid situations. We are controlled by fear a lot more than we realise (or at least, that's what i got out of the article).
And then it goes on "so ignore your fear and do it anyway", which is terrible advice. Really really terrible.
It's like telling you that when you are driving and a warning light appears on the dashboard trying to tell you something, ignore it and push on forwards anyway - wouldn't want to be a weak, boring driver, would you?
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#9Tap the line cutter on the shoulder and smile while you say “sorry, you may not have noticed, but the line starts over there.”
I do this sometimes with kids who play music on the tram and it is very unpleasant. My monkeybrain kicks in and I get a rush of fight hormones, my face gets red and most likely the guy/gals opposite too. The situation never escalates but I feel uncomfortable after that.
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#10I understand that they are proposing it more as a general exercise, but I'm pretty sure that failing to have a conversation with every person who asks me for money on the street isn't actually making my life boring. Also, I can't imagine anyone actually saying the words, “I am determined to make new friends tonight and I bet you are just the kind of people who make good friends.”
This works really well at networking events. Most people at networking events 1) feel like the reason they went there is to meet new people and 2) are still too shy to actually meet new people. Walking up to them and saying this provides a solution to both problems.