Not available in Chile :(
Or NZ
Or Sweden.
Show HN: I created an app for you to be a more unpredictable romantic partner
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#92One of the most important characteristics in a partner is authenticity. If they didn't think of getting you flowers themself (and had to use an app), is that real?
If I set a calendar reminder to call my mom on Mother's Day, is that less authentic?
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#93Lots of comments are saying this is disingenuous, but they are missing the fact that you have to care enough about your partner and relationship to get this app, and actually follow through with the suggestions. There is nothing disingenuous about that, and, frankly, most people wouldn’t care or couldn’t be bothered enough to actually do it. As a busy adult with ADHD, a young kid, and a demanding job it is hard to re…
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#94One of the most important characteristics in a partner is authenticity. If they didn't think of getting you flowers themself (and had to use an app), is that real?
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#95Not available in Chile :(
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#96Earlier quoted context omitted.
If your SO would be annoyed at your romantic gesture because you got the idea from an app you might have other problems in that relationship. Generally, I find women appreciate the gesture, even if the idea isn't entirely original. People just like that you think about them.
What "other problems in that relationship" do you think they might have? Doing little surprises for someone, texting them to wish them a good day, etc, is a form of signalling. People like it because they know that you are thinking about them randomly, and that you care how they're doing. If you're simply using an app reminder to do stuff in order to grind relationship points, it has a completely different meaning.
Two or three times a year, I schedule a dozen emails to my wife. Just little missives that say something sweet that I appreciate about her. I spread them out over the next few months, so she gets little reminders from me that say I love you.
When I’m staring down a long, busy day and she looks run down, I schedule an email a few hours later to say “Hope your day is going well, you’re awesome and I’m grateful to have you.”
When my wife gets the emails, I’m almost certainly not thinking about her. I’m usually at work focused on work.
Am I doing romance wrong?
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#97Downloaded it. It wants my email, date of birth, full name and access to all my photos, before it will let me use it. Way too much info. Delete app. Shame because it seems like a nice idea.
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#98Earlier quoted context omitted.
I’d say yes. We are all flawed. It’s not because you are busy or because your brain is tired that you don’t love your partner. Being spontaneous requires energy. A lot of people lack energy but still loves their partner. Following the prompt isn’t mandatory, just take it as a source of inspiration for when you want to be kind but have no idea.
> Being spontaneous requires energy. A lot of people lack energy but still loves their partner. The point is that you have a limited amount of energy, but you chose to dedicate some of it to something your partner would like. Optimising by reducing the amount of energy you use to do that defeats the purpose.
Respectfully, I think you’re limiting the valuation to just the culturally propagated version of “caring”.
Some people wake up naturally in the morning. Some people need an alarm. They can both care deeply about the reason they’re waking up (a job, an appointment, whatever) but for some people, they need the extra help.
For some, setting the reminder is the effort and energy that shows you care. It’s worth saying though that the most important thing is doing the things that show your partner that you care.
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#99One of the most important characteristics in a partner is authenticity. If they didn't think of getting you flowers themself (and had to use an app), is that real?
So, following your line of reasoning: buying jewelry, flowers, going to a movie or a restaurant is all bullshit and inauthentic because you didn’t have it as an original idea?
I guess I understand your desire to be creative and original in expressing affection. But, in the real world, ideas are cheap and execution is the hard part!
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#100This might be good, in the balance, for some people, but an important component is lost...
There are things that past partners have done that were especially meaningful because they came from the heart -- because they thought of it, and wanted to.
And I'd never say what those things were, because it wouldn't be as special if a future partner did one of those other things because they'd been given intel that I'd like that.
Nor if they were told to by an app.