Show HN: Early version of a Speed Dating Community

Post by [deleted] » Wed, Jun 20, 2018, 4:06 PM UTC

draugadrotten wrote: post #28

fsargent wrote: post #26

The problem with dating isn't lack of meeting people, it's lack of heuristics. Speed dating just makes it faster to judge, but it doesn't actually do any work for you. One of the big benefits to OkCupid is that the heuristics are relatively good. Improve on that, and you're golden.

one of the problems with good heuristics is that almost all the desire is sent towards the 9's and 10's. Yet obviously most of the site users are 8 or less. So the 9-10s gets swamped, and leave early. The remaining users gets bored because nobody replies. The problem here is not that heuristics of finding "your best match" is bad. It is quite easy to figure out who is attractive and matches you. The problem is that m…

Post by chongli » Wed, Jun 20, 2018, 4:19 PM UTC

InitialLastName wrote: post #34

personlurking wrote: post #30

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Here's my idea for an AI-based speed dating site/app. You fill in the basics (about you and your preferences), plus 5 things that are important to you in life, plus 1-2 things you want to absolutely avoid (ex, smokers), your availability and that's it. In the background, the AI matches you and sets you up for a quick coffee date at a location that's not far from either person. Twist: every single person actively look…

That leaves you essentially only dating people who are within ~10 minutes of you at some point. Anything more would be a big time sacrifice- a 5 minute coffee turns into 15 minutes with a 5 minute commute. If that person ghosts (as online daters will know happens ALL THE TIME) or is suddenly unavailable, or 5 minutes late or whatever, you're wasting extra time on someone you've never met and might never met. As an ex…

Post by 456hdsaq234g » Wed, Jun 20, 2018, 4:38 PM UTC

personlurking wrote: post #41

InitialLastName wrote: post #34

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That leaves you essentially only dating people who are within ~10 minutes of you at some point. Anything more would be a big time sacrifice- a 5 minute coffee turns into 15 minutes with a 5 minute commute. If that person ghosts (as online daters will know happens ALL THE TIME) or is suddenly unavailable, or 5 minutes late or whatever, you're wasting extra time on someone you've never met and might never met. As an ex…

Agree, there will be some issues with what I'm proposing, but I'm mostly looking at it from an in-app time sink perspective. I'd like to remove any frustrations associated with using dating apps. If someone ghosts IRL, then that factors into the AI/ML as time goes on (maybe they can only go on 2 coffee dates per month for the next 3 months as penalty).

Post by personlurking » Wed, Jun 20, 2018, 4:43 PM UTC

chongli wrote: post #44

InitialLastName wrote: post #34

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That leaves you essentially only dating people who are within ~10 minutes of you at some point. Anything more would be a big time sacrifice- a 5 minute coffee turns into 15 minutes with a 5 minute commute. If that person ghosts (as online daters will know happens ALL THE TIME) or is suddenly unavailable, or 5 minutes late or whatever, you're wasting extra time on someone you've never met and might never met. As an ex…

If that person ghosts To get around the ghosting problem you could use GPS to see if the person is actually where they're supposed to be for the speed date. Essentially, people would get a notification when >x people are available in the area and they could go to a coffee shop and flip a toggle which instructs the app to start sending people to speed date them. If they leave the coffee shop or turn off their phone or…

Post by 456hdsaq234g » Wed, Jun 20, 2018, 5:24 PM UTC

personlurking wrote: post #49

456hdsaq234g wrote: post #45

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Careful, this is sounding a little eugenic with the "must be on the site". There is no possible way to implement this without some authoritarian regime making it so. I get the impression that this idea if rather coercive.

The app idea isn't related to improving the genetic quality of a human population, but it does solve for the chicken & egg marketplace problem. Having everyone who's 'single and looking' on it could be solved by its mere popularity (ex. Facebook).