Love how most of the comments are all "here's something that's different/better than what you shared" instead of appreciation. Show HN should be motivating instead of one-upmanship.
https://xkcd.com/920/
Most of the time what we call listening is just our way of waiting for our turn. Paraphrasing some smart person.
A different smart person once taught me that the most interesting and effective conversation is one where you speak only using questions. If you're curious then questions are natural, if you want to argue, then questions are a masterfully manipulative form...
Its hard to do