Earlier quoted context omitted.
> Using charm and calculated moves to influence others isn’t a bad thing. It’s the basis of flattery. Flattery doesn't have to be calculated. As to calculated moves, distinct things can fit the same labels. Intent, context, and execution are all important.
I would argue that flattery without calculation is just poorly calculated flattery. Same applies to many other traits in the list. Low achievements people lie right and left just as well. Are cynical when convenient, yada yada. Basically, the list says that these 30s are just like an average Joe, but smart. Which should be a surprise to no one.
Not everyone lies or is cynical when convenient. Skill, rate of success, and personal ethics are all orthogonal concepts.
Above all, intent matters. I do not treat someone who I perceive to be manipulative the same as I would other people.