Doesn't seem correct, at least for Holland. As far as I'm aware, as a seller in The Netherlands, you only have to charge VAT for buyers that are also in The Netherlands.
You're simply dead wrong about that. When selling services online to consumers you have to charge the going rate in the country of your consumers. VATMOSS is one of the reasons I shut down a small SAAS aimed at consumers, by the time the bookkeeper was done with the VAT filings they'd eaten up all the profits. It's a ridiculous system without any minimum levels.
However, VAT MOSS has no threshold. That means small businesses now have to make a decision between keeping that extra £17k and not selling to the EU or selling to the EU and forgoing the £17k tax break.
Awfully designed system.