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Show HN: Roadmap – A Personal Growth Game for Social Anxiety

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Re: Show HN: Roadmap – A Personal Growth Game for Social Anxiety

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Post by larusso »

1270018080 wrote: post #11

Is it all work related goals?

Also interested. My social anxieties show the most in every day life situations not so much at work or at least no longer. During company parties it’s the worst. I receive a strong flight reflex and only want to go home. The more people I know better but that doesn’t always help. Alcohol helps but that isn’t an alley I want to follow.

What I found interesting: I traveled the West coast this summer and I have no real problem talking with foreign people in a different language. Maybe it’s because these are meaningless encounters anyway I don’t really understand it. Other interesting fact is, if you ask my friends (which I don’t count many.) they might tell you that they didn’t see this part of me. I can mask it pretty good. My wife sees it a lot. I tend to leave conversations I don’t like or put up phone calls and other things to the very last minute. But at work? I had luck to work very long with the same set of people. That gives me a great trust foundation. Starting somewhere new? Just the thought feels like a nightmare.

Re: Show HN: Roadmap – A Personal Growth Game for Social Anxiety

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Post by wholinator2 »

larusso wrote: post #13
1270018080 wrote: post #11

Is it all work related goals?

Also interested. My social anxieties show the most in every day life situations not so much at work or at least no longer. During company parties it’s the worst. I receive a strong flight reflex and only want to go home. The more people I know better but that doesn’t always help. Alcohol helps but that isn’t an alley I want to follow. What I found interesting: I traveled the West coast this summer and I have no real…

One tip i heard from good ol jordan peterson is to force yourself to start making eye contact with people when you notice yourself slipping. It worked very well for me in party and on the street settings because it's a relatively easy task but such a simple gesture really opens the door to further interaction much wider. I never realized how much i was scowling and avoiding eye contact until i saw someone else doing exactly what i did. It was a terrifying experience and research afterwards was how i found this tip. It's very much in the realm of "just try this thing" type advice but i find that's what works best for me. All of a sudden I'm about to cut the spiral at the start and better engage with that "starting things" part of social life. I'm by no means perfect but damn i wish I'd learned more strategies in college when I'd regularly embarrass myself running from interest.

I hope you find a strategy that works for you. I know how impossible it feels to get back in but making eye contact and forcing a smile is something pretty much anyone can do. People want to talk to someone looking and smiling and often times will start the interaction themselves, saving me all the hard work!

Re: Show HN: Roadmap – A Personal Growth Game for Social Anxiety

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Post by ksenzee »

This is essentially a medical device for administering behavioral therapy to treat social anxiety, and I don't see any indication that it was developed with any kind of input or review from experts in the field. I honestly feel that borders on irresponsible. A review from a psychologist specializing in social anxiety would be a good idea.

Re: Show HN: Roadmap – A Personal Growth Game for Social Anxiety

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Post by autoexec »

Apps that tempt people into placing their mental health issues, and the state of those issues, into networked devices designed to collect and leak their private data like a sieve is just irresponsible. I'm sure advertisers and data brokers would love to have this kind of information, but it's probably better for people who already have struggles with mental health if companies aren't exploiting those struggles for profit.

Even if you don't plan on selling that data, it's operating on a platform that can't be trusted and is itself designed to exploit users.

Re: Show HN: Roadmap – A Personal Growth Game for Social Anxiety

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Post by sjamaan »

autoexec wrote: post #18

Apps that tempt people into placing their mental health issues, and the state of those issues, into networked devices designed to collect and leak their private data like a sieve is just irresponsible. I'm sure advertisers and data brokers would love to have this kind of information, but it's probably better for people who already have struggles with mental health if companies aren't exploiting those struggles for pr…

I don't understand why you're being downvoted. This is absolutely an issue of today's mobile devices.
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