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Are there some other programming jobs in which being extroverted isn't a requirement? Or I should keep searching for the right company? I don't think I can change my personality.
Keep talking and meeting new people, get better at socializing. Being introverted just means you prefer not to have to socialize some (or most) of the time, it doesn't mean you have to be bad at talking to people.
Being able to socialize is a skill, not a personality. How much you like to do it is what determines if you're extroverted or introverted.
How introverted are you ? - web agencies and the like which require client interaction will tend to require more extroverted developers but if you're at a large company working on internal project it tends to be much less of an issue.
I don't know you at all, but I bet it will be fine... Just keep trying and see how you can improve and represent yourself! :)
I don't know what your situation is, but you probably won't have success trying to find a job that fits your personality like a glove. There are too many factors and anyway the environment could change instantly the minute another new hire walks in.
My sympathy, because I can imagine this must be puzzling.
From experience, my analysis tree would go like this:
1. Is this a euphemism or excuse? Euphemisms can be used to cover up other meanings like "you look like a serial killer" or "bathe more." You might want to pursue those angles. Excuses can cover things like you wanting too much money, or being too strong in your opinions or knowledge. (Remember, the machine wants cogs, not governors.)
2. If you think it's actually what they mean, I'd look at the word as they're going to use it, which means "socially withdrawn" and not its actual meaning. Then I'd check these:
(a) Does my appearance scream "socialization difficulty"? Did I wear a monk's habit to the job interview, or talk about 1980s classic videogames too much?
(b) Does my behavior scream "socialization difficulty"? If so, I'd approach this as you would any other technical problem. Find some "normals" to observe and pretend you're James Bond, super spy, and imitate them. You must infiltrate the hive and shut off the reactor.
3. If none of the above are checked: something else is making them nervous. Talk to a recruiter, psychologist or other and have them observe you. Also, make sure no parts of your life or resume scream "serial killer" or "probably molests goats."
4. If that's not the case, think about where you're applying. The machine loves cogs -- I said that already -- but sometimes, silly people in charge of silly companies want cheerful happy cheerleader types who will socialize a lot, get really excited over foosball, etc. They like these because they're tractable and easily manipulated. These silly companies tend to be tech sweatshops that assess you based on the amount of code you grind, not how good it is. Do you want to work there anyway? If you do, you're going to have to play Halloween dress-up and imitate what they want.
I will never support bias against introverted people just so that there can be the illusion (sorry, I mean "appearance") of a happy enthusiastic go-get-'em workplace. That's just silly. But if your appearance or behavior makes other people nervous, and they're not nitwits, you might consider adopting a little bit of a charade so you can work with these people.
When they hire you as long as you do what you are told and respond when somebody asks you about something and listen to people, no one will know that you are introvert.
Just pretend to be extrovert. Smile and look at people when they talk as if what they are saying was fantastic. Imagine the people you meet are your friends. Those of your friends that prefer to talk than to listen to you. It's all bit tiresome for introvert but most jobs are. When they hire you as long as you do what you are told and respond when somebody asks you about something and listen to people, no one will kn…
You can't change your underlying personality, but you can work on being more social. It's definitely not easy (at least not for me) - when in social situations during the workday, my internal monologue is usually saying "I'd rather be coding." It takes time and practice, but it's achievable. I've been working at being more social and have seen some success.
Most technical companies worth their salt are happy to have introverted developers doing the hard coding behind the scenes. In general you'll be better off at a software firm that markets to consumers, since there is less direct client interaction. (It's not that you won't be good at client interaction, it's that you have to convince someone)
Because of this, a place like Google or Facebook would be better than SAP or Oracle.