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Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by needadvicebadly »

Every day I'm drowning in depression, anxiety, and fear. No amount of therapy, medication, psychedelics, meditation has put a real dent in the issue. Trying to lose weight, fix my sleep, sharpen my cognitive abilities, in addition to managing a marriage within the context of my emotional instability is a Herculean task I have failed time and time again.

With every failed attempt to correct course, suicide becomes an ever more likely inevitability. At this point, it feels like there is no other option.

I just want to die.

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Post by liwei0517 »

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling with so much pain and difficulty. It sounds like you're carrying a heavy burden, and it's understandable that you feel overwhelmed and hopeless.

It's important to remember that suicide is not the only option, and there is hope for a better future. You don't have to face these challenges alone. Have you spoken to a mental health professional about your struggles? If not, I would encourage you to seek out a therapist or counselor who can offer you support and guidance.

It's also important to take care of your physical and emotional health. While losing weight, improving sleep, and sharpening cognitive abilities can be challenging, it's important to take small steps and celebrate progress, rather than focusing on the ultimate goal. It may be helpful to seek out a support group or find an accountability partner to help you stay motivated and on track.

Lastly, please know that there are people who care about you and want to help. You are not alone in this struggle, and there is always hope for a better tomorrow. If you ever feel like you're in crisis, please reach out to a crisis hotline or emergency services for immediate support.

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Post by gostsamo »

An internet forum of random strangers is not the best place for such a help. We might be well-meaning at the best of times, but qualified we are not.

If you are looking for some ideas, break out from your current life. Identify the sources of your stress and get as far as possible from them. Take an year or two to recuperate. Don't try to hold on to stuff, people, ideas out of habit or sense of obligation. If you can't fight it, flee it.

This is not a qualified advice, just a random internet idea.

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Post by elmerfud »

It's difficult to say what to do. You should do everything you can to get professional help and if that help isn't working then find another professional and another... Until something works.

Asking here is really just asking for anecdotal information that maybe could apply to you but should still be filtered through a professional. So as far as anecdotal information I can offer only my own personal experiences. You don't say if you are a man or woman and not a lot of detail about your life but for many years I was in a very depressive state. During my younger years I was forced to develop a fairly strong mental fortitude that would allow me to mask the depression and anxiety and other things but they were always there but as I got older it became more and more difficult. I was probably the weeks or months from ending my life and something triggered me to go into one of those male clinics that you hear advertised all the time on the radio. Maybe it was the idea of there's no downside of just going there but my testosterone was very low and within 3 months of getting testosterone therapy and having that be the only single change in my life everything got better. The biggest thing is the day-to-day depression went away completely even though all of the things that I would sit and ruminate on that were horrible about my life we're still there and none of that changed and none of that is really changed even to this day but my mental attitude is I don't care and they don't bother me and it doesn't make me sad. And then all of the other side effects from having an increased or normal level of testosterone or just plus benefits the increased energy the ability to focus better the lack of anxiety and fear just kind of melted away. So that's really my personal experience without doing that I would probably have taken the choice that you're asking for alternatives to.

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Post by Khelavaster »

needadvicebadly wrote: post #3
verdverm wrote: post #2

https://988lifeline.org/ Get help from people who know how to

Thanks, but I don't need a nice chat; I need a longterm solution.

If you're angry, you're not depressed.

Consider sharing your deep outrage with literally everybody whose job it technically is to do a better job.

Useless psychiatrist or therapist? Try yelling at and berating them for ineffectusl organization, then trickle elaborate, true bad reviews about them on Google Reviews, Yelp, etc.

Bad social services organization? Go into different offices near where you live, ask why you aren't actually getting help,

Does a psychiatrist say they're going to psychiatrically hold you because you're outraged? Bear mace is a surprisingly good response. Then walk out.

Never, ever, ever give up enough true information about yourself that you could personally be served with legal paperwork.

If they can't name you, they can't serve you an order to desist.

Hou'te not depressed when you feel overwhelming negative emotions, you're upset.

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#10

Post by ytNumbers »

If you haven't tried going to a naturopathic/holistic doctor, that might help. If you've already been to that sort of physician, you might want to get a second opinion. It sounds like you've already covered the basics like getting your vitamin D levels and vitamin B levels checked. You might be one doctor visit away from a permanent solution to a temporary problem. When I found my current physician, I learned how mediocre my previous doctors were. It wasn't that hard for me to find a quality physician. The problem was that, not being a medical expert myself, I simply had no idea that my previous doctors were so deficient.
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