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Ask HN: Please Give Me Advice

#1

Post by obviouslyfake »

Can’t make myself do anything anymore

Im not achieving anything, no matter how hard i try

On my 6th month of doing barely anything and it’s already December

I’m regretting that i didn’t use the time to achieve something meaningful

I have money, yet i’m miserable and unhappy

I feel ashamed of being that guy who is always depressed, angry and sad

All i dream of to make a contribution and make an impact

Yet i struggle to find anyone who needs my help

I’m thinking my (dead) grandparents would be embarrassed of me being such a loser

I’m trying all my best to be a good person, yet i’m still not good enough for myself

I used to think it’s not that bad: i’m not hungry, have a warm place to stay and guaranteed inheritance

Yet, i feel like i’m a useless parasite, nothing i do brings joy to me

Re: Ask HN: Please Give Me Advice

#2

Post by slater »

Few people have anything resembling a plan.

Just don't ask randos on the internet. You'll hear this often, because there's truth to it: Seek therapy. It's not a sign of weakness.

And if the therapist doesn't "click" with you, see a different one.

Re: Ask HN: Please Give Me Advice

#4

Post by poetically »

This is the zeitgeist so what you're feeling is reasonable. We live in material abundance but spiritual destitution. So unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do individually that will help other than maybe look into folks like Neil Postman, Alan Watts, Carl Sagan, etc. and read what they wrote to see if it can be applied in your individual circumstances. It's hard to do anything about an individual problem until you understand its systemic causes and can place it in the proper context for analysis.

Re: Ask HN: Please Give Me Advice

#5

Post by obviouslyfake »

slater wrote: post #2

Few people have anything resembling a plan. Just don't ask randos on the internet. You'll hear this often, because there's truth to it: Seek therapy. It's not a sign of weakness. And if the therapist doesn't "click" with you, see a different one.

I have called everyone in my area, many times, nobody could give me an appointment

Already on drugs, but taking them makes me feel more shit, because then i have a thought that i'm a broken person and can't live a normal live without depending on meds

Re: Ask HN: Please Give Me Advice

#6

Post by giantg2 »

Learn a hobby. Maybe try to be more self sufficient. The more self sufficient you are, the less approval you'll need from others. I dream of a small farm someday. I learn things now that will be useful in the future - like gardening, butchering, taxidermy, culturing mushrooms, caning, etc.

Re: Ask HN: Please Give Me Advice

#7

Post by obviouslyfake »

poetically wrote: post #4

This is the zeitgeist so what you're feeling is reasonable. We live in material abundance but spiritual destitution. So unfortunately I don't think there is anything you can do individually that will help other than maybe look into folks like Neil Postman, Alan Watts, Carl Sagan, etc. and read what they wrote to see if it can be applied in your individual circumstances. It's hard to do anything about an individual pr…

I've read Alan Watts, the Stoics and Buddhism stuff

I tried going to Church, to seek community, but i can't pretend i'm religious when i'm not

Re: Ask HN: Please Give Me Advice

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Post by obviouslyfake »

giantg2 wrote: post #6

Learn a hobby. Maybe try to be more self sufficient. The more self sufficient you are, the less approval you'll need from others. I dream of a small farm someday. I learn things now that will be useful in the future - like gardening, butchering, taxidermy, culturing mushrooms, caning, etc.

Hobbies keep me distracted, but my motivation doesn't last very long
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