Started working in the field couple of years ago. I have trouble managing other aspects of life like socializing, hanging out with the family. Hell I even often get blamed for wearing the same types of outfit. How do you guys manage the other half of work? I just can't get enough time to complete my work.
Ask HN: How do you manage your other half of life?
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#2Spend other half to complete your work
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#3Poorly
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#5I can't parse your question. You say you have troulbe socializing and hanging out with your family and I presume that this is called "the other half of life" as stated in your title. Yet, the next sentence you call it the "other half of work". Do you feel like it is work to do so? If so, then there lies your issue: according to your experience, it might be the case that both work and the socializing aspect of life feels draining.
I don't think I can help you here as my experiences are completely different. I simply manage by not letting work get to me and feeling the urge to call friends and be with them. With regards to family, I have the same issue, but c'est la vie.
Consider finding a coach, if you have issues with this.
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#6I'm in your situation couple times per year, when there's so much to do, that I basically work + sleep only. But imagine that's temporary and you'll get over it (e.g. you'll become better at your job, or make a significant progress with the difficult tasks you're assigned to currently - you name it).
If situation takes longer than you're actually able to manage it - maybe there's something wrong at your work part of life and maybe you should consider change?
Side note: This year I've decided to monitor my life a little bit, so I've decided to create notes at the end of each week ( https://lukaszkups.net/notes/?category=lkweekly ) which summaries all aspects about my professional (technology-oriented) and private (social, free time) life.
After 32 weeks, I can say, that not these notes are helpful by any mean, but the process when I sit down and start thinking about what happened last week (& trying to find suitable words to describe it).
I really recommend trying this by yourself, it might be a little refresh and gaining a new perspective to your life.
Hope you'll find a way to improve your life as well, take care!
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#7> How do you guys manage the other half of work?
I'm guessing this is a typo.
Honestly speaking I don't manage it well. I go through spurts of either side, luckily alternating between social and work. There are weeks where I sort of disappear and even avoid my friends and loved ones. But either by design or by chance I get out of it only to fall on the other side of the wall. I have made my peace with this pattern, perhaps you can try this out? Now I am not saying when I am in my social manic phase I don't go to work but it is not a priority any more. No more trying things out because they sound fun, more coffee chats, say yes to less meetings, etc.
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#8Well how much do you work? If your work + commute is >60 hrs a week well shit ain’t gonna work well unless you don’t sleep.
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#9I can't parse your question. You say you have troulbe socializing and hanging out with your family and I presume that this is called "the other half of life" as stated in your title. Yet, the next sentence you call it the "other half of work". Do you feel like it is work to do so? If so, then there lies your issue: according to your experience, it might be the case that both work and the socializing aspect of life fe…
Ohkay, I'll consider getting a coach.
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#10I'm in your situation couple times per year, when there's so much to do, that I basically work + sleep only. But imagine that's temporary and you'll get over it (e.g. you'll become better at your job, or make a significant progress with the difficult tasks you're assigned to currently - you name it). If situation takes longer than you're actually able to manage it - maybe there's something wrong at your work part of…
Thank you for the suggestions.
Oh, I guess I'll definitely try that out. I guess it will create some new insights.
Nice website, I like it :)