A popular "Ask HN" was posted recently, that asked how to find a wife[1].
Suppose you have found someone. When do you know it's the right time to get married?
[1] https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=14332698
Ask HN: What made you decide to marry your spouse?
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#2I had had two fairly good long term relationships before, both of which ended abruptly, The first time, I got kicked out, the second, I initiated the breakup. I said to my self, "the next one that comes along is going to be the one". I was playing guitar in a cheap bar one night and a friend's friend walked in with her friend. As they walked in, through the smoky, bleary light, that girl turned and smiled at me. End of story.
Re: Ask HN: What made you decide to marry your spouse?
#3jaredhansen[0] posted a great response[1] to this question awhile back.
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#4After a 22 year trial period, we married for insurance purposes.
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#5Right time? When you both love each other, when you both want to be married, and when you both are committed to staying married.
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#6Met in HS at 15, it was super obvious to us by 19ish when we started living together.
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#7After a 22 year trial period, we married for insurance purposes.
Having lived through my parents' unhappy marriage, I'm strongly resistant to getting married.
However, my current partner has better retirement benefits than I do (both Social Security and pension benefits). I recently joked with him that we should marry so that I inherit his benefits should he kick off before I do. That would be an unpleasant reason to get married.
Regarding health insurance, currently it looks like we're better off not being married. That's probably also true for tax purposes.
Re: Ask HN: What made you decide to marry your spouse?
#8Awesome article on this very topic. http://waitbutwhy.com/2016/09/marriage-decision.html
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#9If you need to ask, I can only advise you to read the cohabitation laws that apply where you live. You may already be "married" but only for the downsides.
Re: Ask HN: What made you decide to marry your spouse?
#10The fun and beautiful is what drew me in. As I got to know the rest of her (smart, good head on her shoulders, confident, compassionate) it became a no brainer.