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Ask HN: Tldr due to startup anxiety gf has left me, how do i get her back?

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Ask HN: Tldr due to startup anxiety gf has left me, how do i get her back?

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My manager at work has been pushing me to the limit and as a result have been carrying a lot of anxiety home leading to a big work induced difference with my gf. Also we have not had physical relationships in months due to this. Added to this my company raised a down round and i had to pay tax on my now worthless options She is extremely pissed and has left

What do i do ? how do i get her back?

Re: Ask HN: Tldr due to startup anxiety gf has left me, how do i get her back?

#2
Hi mate, thanks for posting. First of all : get her back in what ? There's no point in getting her back if it's to put her in the same mess, get your life sorted first.

It sounds like you successfully identified the cause of this issue. I'll be honest with you, if you can't change the way you feel when going to work, find another job.

If I was you, I would quit my job, and after I found another one call my gf, tell her that I realize I screwed it, that I am very sorry and that I learned from my mistakes. By doing so, you have proofs that you are serious about it and she will likely come back.

Edit : But ultimately you need to understand the benefits of changing your work environment so that even if she doesn't come back you will have no regret. Keep your life above your work, consider your best interest first.

Re: Ask HN: Tldr due to startup anxiety gf has left me, how do i get her back?

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I dont know how I feel about this one. I feel she should be the one helping/supporting you through your down period and not leaving you when stuff is messed up

Man, they didn't have sex for months. The problem comes from the OP, he needs to build his emotional maturity.

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#7

I dont know how I feel about this one. I feel she should be the one helping/supporting you through your down period and not leaving you when stuff is messed up

That's unreasonable. They haven't had sex in months. Anyway, OP should chalk this up as a learning experience and move on. Develop a more balanced lifestyle.

Re: Ask HN: Tldr due to startup anxiety gf has left me, how do i get her back?

#10

I dont know how I feel about this one. I feel she should be the one helping/supporting you through your down period and not leaving you when stuff is messed up

Relationships are a two way deal. It sounds like it has been going for a while, at least several months. She has every right to put herself first if she's been in an unhappy situation for a long time.

I went through a down period a few years back, lost my gf of 5 years to it. Her leaving removed my saftey crutch and forced me to get my own shit together. Sounds like it's what the OP might need too.

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