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Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by mcphage »

wmil wrote: post #866
JumpCrisscross wrote: post #617

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> it's quite simple: there are many more men in the Bay than women I’m in Manhattan. The single sex ratio is reversed. (More single women than men.) Male FAANG employee rants about how they should be magnets for women, but can’t find a date because something is wrong with all women, are equally prevalent here. They’re all (a) the same rant and (b) as boring as the last one. There’s a selection effect among well-paid…

> That or these jobs turn interesting people into those who believe they should be magnets for the opposite sex, which tends to be a turn-off for most people. Tech selects for people who are object focussed as opposed to people focussed. Most women prefer to date men who are good at wooing and entertaining them. Which means more people focussed than object focussed. The tech men are frustrated because they are basica…

> The tech men are frustrated because they are basically their best selves

> And they don't have the skills to wow the women socially.

Your standard of what qualifies as a man's "best self" is pretty low.

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by collyw »

scottishfiction wrote: post #640
franze wrote: post #577

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> If you stay at Google, make the most of it by progressing deliberately in your social life. If I'd've stayed, I could have comfortably raised some kids with my wife by now - but that's still on the todo list. Uh oh. Unseen Risk Fallacy Just because you don't experience risk, doesn't mean it does not exist. The company just hides risk from you, but it's still there, culminating without feedback. As raising a child i…

Speaking of fallacies, how about the one where parenthood increases your risk of underperformance 'exponentially', or is in any way a 'risk factor'. Check your bias. Parenthood is as likely to make you better at your job.

> Parenthood is as likely to make you better at your job.

Have you got any evidence to back that up?

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by non-entity »

pyuser583 wrote: post #880
cantrevealname wrote: post #358

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> make the most of it by progressing deliberately in your social life Ironically the Bay Area is among the worst places on Earth for improving your social life if you're straight and male. I noticed that you don't live in the Bay Area, you're married, you probably meant a much broader meaning of "social life", so your experiences are likely very different. But the typical clean cut, well-spoken, hard working, respect…

My own observations of the Bay Area dating culture is that: 1. Lots of people in their early to mid 20s who aren’t interested settling down. 2. Lots of people who are career focused and not interested in settling down. 3. Lots of people who are students and not interested in settling down. 4. Lots of people who are already settled down. Long term, stable relationships are very common. Marriage, less so, but not uncom…

I see a lot of the opposite in the south. So many people want to settle down relatively young. I'm got shit to do with my life first.

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by thedaemon »

thedaemon wrote: post #839
selimthegrim wrote: post #732

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Who on earth (in USA I should say) actually listens to their parents in this matter?

These tech guys who's only relationship is with their mother? I'm pretty sickened by reading all the comments on this post. So many incels it's not even funny.

Ah yes chauvinistic men who feel entitlement to "pussy". You are what's wrong with the world. Women are people, not objects.

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by thedaemon »

MiroF wrote: post #947
thedaemon wrote: post #841

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https://www.faang.org/ Acronyms really need to be phased out, as I highly doubt you mean Functional Annotation of Animal Genomes. I'm guessing it's the 2nd result? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook,_Apple,_Amazon,_Netfl...

you must be new here

I'm just horrible with acronyms because I work in IT and the health industry, previous the security industry. They all have acronyms and the same acronyms. So they all mean different things to different people. Acronyms are a lazy person writing and you have to be "in the know" to know what they stand for. 100 years from now, no one will be able to understand them.

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by scottishfiction »

collyw wrote: post #952
scottishfiction wrote: post #640

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Speaking of fallacies, how about the one where parenthood increases your risk of underperformance 'exponentially', or is in any way a 'risk factor'. Check your bias. Parenthood is as likely to make you better at your job.

> Parenthood is as likely to make you better at your job. Have you got any evidence to back that up?

I’m explicitly not making any claims about the affect of parenthood on performance in saying that in the absence of any evidence, it is as likely to make you better as it is worse. The burden of proof lies with the GP, who sees it as a risk.

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by manthedudeguy »

keiferski wrote: post #514
OOPMan wrote: post #426

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Yeah...as someone who recently relocated from a third-world country (South Africa) to a first-world country (Canada) I'm just going to go ahead and tell you that while the costs of living and property in third-world countries sound great there are a lot of negatives that don't make up for it.

Argentina is not a third world country.

A large part of it most certainly is

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by throwawayamaze1 »

tomhoward wrote: post #927
throwawayamaze1 wrote: post #921

I don’t get it HN community - why is my below post flagged when the comments on this thread discuss attracting women in the context of how much money one makes...seriously? It’s frustrating that this community won’t tolerate any form of self reflection of itself on threads that otherwise are full of self reflection and personal drivel. OG comment: This thread has to be the most accurate and depressing reflection of t…

Some possibilities: - it's against the guidelines to complain about downvotes, and inciting them like you did amounts to the same thing; - your comment is a low-content swipe at an entire industry, containing little that could lead to a productive discussion.

Thanks for engaging on this, much appreciated.

- While it is against the guidelines, it’s unfortunate that the guidelines seem to never be up for discussion or evolution. Any discussion of this is met with swift downvoting and flagging.

- In this case, I believe it’s important to call a spade a spade and stand by my original comment. Unfortunately I find that despite everyone’s best intentions, the HN community’s steadfast commitment to productive discussion leads to cases such as this wherein the discussion is far from productive, yet members of the community are free to rationalize their perspectives and opinions under the guise of further “productive discussion.” To me, it’s a necessary counterbalance to call this out when it happens and to avoid the trap of inviting further rationalization of toxic commentary under the auspices of so-called productive discussion.

Community members should be held responsible for their commentary and its potential negative impact on on others within the community.

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by baby »

snak wrote: post #344
throwaway8291 wrote: post #319

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The max I negotiated in Europe was $125000, an ok start up salary was maybe $80000 and I am currently - with lots of non-money benefits at around $70000. What makes me most sad is that fostering the web tracking industry - tech + marketing - is so lucrative. I have such a hard time understanding this world - it does not make much sense any more. This lying and scheming around collecting all your data and activity for…

Europe? Could you specify country?

That's a huge salary for Europe, where probably the highest paychecks are in London. I'd say it's probably a large US company, and OP is probably very senior.

Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?

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Post by collyw »

scottishfiction wrote: post #956
collyw wrote: post #952

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> Parenthood is as likely to make you better at your job. Have you got any evidence to back that up?

I’m explicitly not making any claims about the affect of parenthood on performance in saying that in the absence of any evidence, it is as likely to make you better as it is worse. The burden of proof lies with the GP, who sees it as a risk.

I highlighted the claim that you did make and asked you to respond to that.
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