I'm sorry if this is offensive, but is this satire? The responses seem genuine but OP's username is "obviouslyfake" and the username is brand new. I don't want to be insensitive if OP is really depressed. But the tone seems sarcastic to me? I could certainly be wrong, but it seems like they are poking fun at other use cases of "AskHN."
Ask HN: Please Give Me Advice
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#92A few people I've spoken with who "broke out" of this mentality credit Jordan Peterson's 12 rules for life https://www.amazon.com/12-Rules-Life-Antidote-Chaos/dp/03458... Here's a quick video (12 min video): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ApC0faRYabI I suspect his lectures, books, etc are likely more in depth. I personally haven't read it much, but am aware of the rules. At the end of the day, you have to just get m…
Here's a great video going over the same concepts but in a humorous way.
7 ways to maximize misery: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LO1mTELoj6o
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#93Looks like a perfect description of Trump nowadays
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Interesting. How about these: - your sleep (how deep) and meal quality (how healthy) - your sleep and meal patterns (what hours, how consistent) - your personal hygiene (haircut, shaving, cutting of nails) - your presence (punctuality, quality of clothing, how you dress) - frequency of physical activity (sports, exercise, do you still get sunlight) - frequency of you spending time with your family, friends, lovers, a…
Besides hygiene and health, don't even want to attempt the rest If nobody likes me because of that, then let them, i'm not a product that needs to match all the checkboxes
depression is a side effect of being self-absorbed.
you might want to reconsider. see if im right or not.
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#95Earlier quoted context omitted.
Interesting. How about these: - your sleep (how deep) and meal quality (how healthy) - your sleep and meal patterns (what hours, how consistent) - your personal hygiene (haircut, shaving, cutting of nails) - your presence (punctuality, quality of clothing, how you dress) - frequency of physical activity (sports, exercise, do you still get sunlight) - frequency of you spending time with your family, friends, lovers, a…
Besides hygiene and health, don't even want to attempt the rest If nobody likes me because of that, then let them, i'm not a product that needs to match all the checkboxes
it's not about people liking you lol, being a people-pleaser is the last thing i'd want anyone to be. these are just couple things that keep most people grounded, enough to serve as a baseline in keeping them sane and functional. it's fucking hard and almost inhuman to tick them all at the same time, but it's worthwhile to give some of these things some time every once in a while.
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#96Few people have anything resembling a plan. Just don't ask randos on the internet. You'll hear this often, because there's truth to it: Seek therapy. It's not a sign of weakness. And if the therapist doesn't "click" with you, see a different one.
I have called everyone in my area, many times, nobody could give me an appointment Already on drugs, but taking them makes me feel more shit, because then i have a thought that i'm a broken person and can't live a normal live without depending on meds
stop being so focused on yourself.
and you are right to think what you do about taking drugs.
i know, i use to be on drugs. they didnt help me. what helped me was helping other people, for no personal gain.
get some hobbies that produce something useful and people will suddenly start needing your help. build some stuff out in the garage. its very rewarding. i like woodworking, but lots of things will do. something not on the computer.
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OK number one thing to understand first and foremost: you are not a ‘broken person’ if you take medication. It’s a tired trope, but only because there’s some truth to it: a person with kidney, heart, or other organ issues isn’t a broken person because they take medication for their condition, right? Same applies to any of your conditions.
Instead of going through this and fixing my life, i'm outsourcing it on pills
you are right to think that. depression isnt quite a choice so much as a side effect of choices you make.
everything has a cost. and being self absorbed has the cost of inducing depression.
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Instead of going through this and fixing my life, i'm outsourcing it on pills
That’s not at all accurate. Blaming yourself for having depression is like blaming yourself for having epilepsy. It’s not your “fault”. It’s important to note that while you might be taking meds, but you might not be taking the right meds , in the right amount . It took me a while to find the right combination for me . This is very, very common. Everyone is different. People react differently to different antidepress…
hes worth getting out of the vicious cycle he is in.
meds arent gonna help him. why does everyone want the easy way out. just take this pill it will solve the problems you thought yourself into..
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Instead of going through this and fixing my life, i'm outsourcing it on pills
This comes from a belief that you could fix the problem via some thought process. Is a type 1 diabetic simply outsourcing their disease to injectable insulin "instead of going thorough this and fixing [their] life"? Depression doesn't work like that. You asked for advice because what you were thinking/trying isn't working. Don't be surprised if some of the suggestions are going to be things you haven't tried yet.
that sounds like some kind of victimhood narrative.
you can totally think yourself into an unhealthy mind.
its avoiding personal responsibility to say otherwise.
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#100Check out Reddit’s EOOD subreddit (Exercise Out Of Depression). I cannot recommend exercise enough as a way to kickstart more positive feelings about yourself and increased motivation to do other things. It compounds.