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Re: Ask HN: How did you fix your narcissism?

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Post by anthk »

Not giving a shit about near everything. I installed Slackware after lots of years (since Debian Woody), but never stayed with it because I had no internet at home.

I have no shit to being "hip" or updated, I installed Fluxbox/Rox and stopped bragging over a setup and I just wanted to get my shit done.

I just did what I loved (learning to code TCL/TK and console/PC emulators in 6502 ASM) instead of accomplishing not my ego, but my distorted view of myself as being enforced by the rest. It worked.

Re: Ask HN: How did you fix your narcissism?

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Post by jodrellblank »

p0d wrote: post #61

I'm not sure a true narcissist would ask this question. You should be encouraged you are maturing and growing in the understanding that the world does not revolve around you. Keep listening to others and asking them questions and you will be good.

I'm not seeing any concern for other people, or for a world outside OP, in OP's post? It's totally self/inward-focused.

Re: Ask HN: How did you fix your narcissism?

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Post by jodrellblank »

The Last Psychiatrist says, paraphrased, "narcissists always come asking how to fix themselves, what they can do to improve themselves, focusing on how awful they are and how much better they want to be. They never come worried about how much they are affecting or hurting other people, or what they can do to help others".

Re: Ask HN: How did you fix your narcissism?

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Post by daenz »

yters wrote: post #89

Religion could help you here, especially Christianity, since a fundamental insight is, as GK Chesterton puts it: "What's wrong with the world? I am." Without realizing there is something fundamentally wrong with me, i.e. the narcissism aka pride, it is impossible to break free. This is the insight that allowed Dante to leave Hell in the Divine Comedy.

But that goes against the current popular mantra of "I am great just the way I am and other people are the cause of my suffering."

Re: Ask HN: How did you fix your narcissism?

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Post by jodrellblank »

Ididntdothis wrote: post #32
moretai wrote: post #27

Earlier quoted context omitted.

What are examples of problems you couldn't solve with your mind?

Ever been in a relationship? There are a lot of problems you can’t just solve with rational thinking.

Problems which can't be expressed as a ratio.

Re: Ask HN: How did you fix your narcissism?

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Post by franze »

As stupid as it sounds, yoga, surfing, working out and writting helped me.

Narcism is a defense, a self preservation strategy. I have it when I am not feeling well. So I do things that make me feel good (yoga, surfing, workout). As an introvert with narcistic tendencies it helps when I write my thoughts, so I can shelf them instead of thinking the same things over and over again.

Oh yeah, a good therapist is also a fine thing.

Re: Ask HN: How did you fix your narcissism?

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Post by BurningFrog »

One easy experiment could be to stop talking about yourself.

Try it for a day.

> I don't enjoy listening to other people

And why is that? Don't you like other people? If so, that's the problem to fix!

Humans are the most fantastic things in existence. Getting to know them can be very interesting, if you have a curious mindset.

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