My advice: Milk that cow as long a you can. Save and invest massively. Start some side businesses. Spend that extra work time reading some e-books or taking online courses.
You can set yourself up for life.
Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
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Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
#882Earlier quoted context omitted.
> It's true the male/female ratios are worse The fact that there are way more men than women in the Bay is a statistical reality, which you admit yourself. Then you bring an opinion blog-post by a single woman as counter-evidence. Ironically, all these complaints about "guys there that have a disgusting sense of entitlement" just go to show how picky she is, and can afford to be, in San Francisco. Nothing in GP's pos…
> guys who would be considered attractive and desirable in most other locations Your conception of what women are looking for in a man might not hew as closely to reality as you think.
In this thread, all people are talking about dating, but looking for a life partner and looking for one night stand are very different things. All genders and sexual orientations look for different things in those two scenarios. A person who would easily find an awesome life partner would have a lot of trouble finding casual sex, and vice versa.
Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
#883Earlier quoted context omitted.
Yeah...as someone who recently relocated from a third-world country (South Africa) to a first-world country (Canada) I'm just going to go ahead and tell you that while the costs of living and property in third-world countries sound great there are a lot of negatives that don't make up for it.
Argentina is not a third world country.
Argentina absolutely IS a third world country.
Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
#884Hi there, I did the exact same thing as you (at Google Sydney), before eventually deciding that I must strike out into the wilderness. In the few years since I left; I worked as a solutions architect managing a team, a team lead, a remote dev, and now in a startup. Front-end, back-end, flip-side, all the ends. So I've been deliberately trying different angles of my career to see what suits. I'd describe this process…
> make the most of it by progressing deliberately in your social life Ironically the Bay Area is among the worst places on Earth for improving your social life if you're straight and male. I noticed that you don't live in the Bay Area, you're married, you probably meant a much broader meaning of "social life", so your experiences are likely very different. But the typical clean cut, well-spoken, hard working, respect…
there are many ways to improve your social life that do not involve dating. Don't limit yourself.
Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
#885Earlier quoted context omitted.
"I will believe that it is rational as oppose to religion therefore enabling me to put trust into it and follow it blindly ." The irony..
Actually, that post was meant to be sarcastic going towards the end but I see it is not as obvious now looking at it. :/
Ah didn't even expect such anymore on HN as of recent years :D
Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
#886Earlier quoted context omitted.
That's why you work on your side projects at work. I plan and design and write in a text editor my personal stuff all the time. It's just a text editor so it doesn't look suspect.
make sure it stays on personal accounts and equipment to avoid ownership issues but ianal
Or better work on gpl code, then it's s win win I think.
Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
#887Earlier quoted context omitted.
>Ironically, all these complaints about "guys there that have a disgusting sense of entitlement" just go to show how picky she is, and can afford to be, in San Francisco It’s not a matter of being picky. It’s a matter of self respect.
One person's "self-respect" is another's "disgusting sense of entitlement". That's just the way it is.
That is not in fact how it is. Self-respect involves belief that you don't deserve harm. Entitlement involves belief that you deserve good things from other people, generally without proportionate giving in return.
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Exactly. Surprisingly, I can't find any statistics. But San Francisco now has zero lesbian bars, and quite a number of popular gay bars. This is a good article on the contrast in community resources: https://hoodline.com/2016/07/is-there-a-place-for-lesbians-i...
> Exactly. Surprisingly, I can't find any statistics. But San Francisco now has zero lesbian bars, and quite a number of popular gay bars. Your statement that "a city that has a large group of gay men doesn't necessarily have a large group of lesbians" is accurate, but this is a bad piece of evidence to cite in favor of it. Almost all cities with large LGBTQ+ populations have far more bars and clubs targeted at gay m…
Could be. But it could just as well mean that gay men tend to move to cities in a way that lesbian women don't. Note also that the piece I linked goes well beyond bars.
Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
#889Earlier quoted context omitted.
I agree with you 100% and have to say that the replies on this particular thread are some of the most toxic I’ve ever read here on HN, and completely indicative of both what you describe as well as my own observations from living here in the Bay for pretty much my entire life. I live in the South Bay, don’t work in tech, make well under $100k a year, live comfortably and have had no issues dating. I’m a local, white…
Being tall is a huge advantage. Over 6' is tall in the Bay. So is being white. Don't sell yourself short.
The parent commenter doesn't realize just how large of an advantage this is. There's lots of empirical evidence demonstrating that height is one of the strongest preferences women have for men. I have personally made fake dating profiles with the same pictures/bio, but different heights here in the Bay Area. The 5'6 profile did not get a single like in a week. The 6'4 profile had inbound interest from a wide variety of women, racking up more likes in an hour than my real profile gets in 2 weeks.
OKCupid's dataset also shows white men are the most desired on average.
Re: Ask HN: I've been slacking off at Google for 6 years. How can I stop this?
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> Your 80k€ gross in e.g. France should be the equivalent of $150k for a US worker I hear this a lot, but if you're earning $150K in the US, you almost certainly have 100% medical coverage. At least, I do, and everyone I know does. The US medical system is broken, but it's OK for high-income earners. It's the low-to-middle income folks who are really hurt by it. > retirement savings Again, if you're earning $150K in…
Just to be clear, I don't want to enter any kind of comparison between EU and US pension/medical systems here! All I'm saying, is that contribution to e.g. a 401k will be done after the $150k (even though the employer will contribute with e.g. 1:1 ratio). Whereas in EU the retirement contribution is already done before the 80k euro. Actually, MANY other contributions will happen before that 80k EUR. Thus, you cannot…
Whereas in EU the retirement contribution is already done before the 80k euro. Actually, MANY other contributions will happen before that 80k EUR.
Exactly same thing is true in the US. 401k is on top of Social Security retirement benefits. Employees pay 6.2% of their salary (up to $127,000 cap) into Social Security, and the employers pay matching 6.2% on top of the gross salary. The 401k is in addition to Social Security benefits, and the Social Security benefits are already higher than the French retirement benefits.