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I second the recommendation of Finite and Infinite Games by James P. Carse. He takes this simple concept and expands and applies it to modern tech, politics, the workplace, education, etc: "There are at least two kinds of games. One could be called finite, the other infinite. A finite game is played for the purpose of winning, an infinite game for the purpose of continuing the play." The player in a finite game actua…

Jordan Peterson describes something like this, but as if one is embedded within the other, as the game itself which can be wonr or lost, and the meta-game of all future games which means you get to continue playing; and uses it to discuss why cheating in games is so bad, especially when teaching children about cooperation.

Cheating might win you the game, but it means nobody will trust you and nobody will want to play with you in future and you're out of the meta-game, you lost the more important thing. It's important to lose fairly at a game, so you get to play again long term.

Something that comes up in HPMOR where a dark lord can't submit and be humble to learn a lesson, instead fighting and killing everyone but losing the larger goal, and something which surely comes up every time someone is "technically right" on a mailing list or forum argument but in such a way that nobody wants to engage with them in future.

Re: Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?

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I'll be in the minority then, but to me these are my best books. The Power of Vulnerability by Brenè Brown and Quiet by Susan Cain. The first is not a real book since it's audio only, there is no written counterpart but it changed the way I see, connect, live in the world entirely. I _never_ found something along those lines. While the second book, Quiet, although a little boring in some sides, made me accept my intr…

Brene Brown's Daring Greatly made a huge impact on me! From what I understand it's very similar to The Power of Vulnerability.

yes, they share many of the topics about vulnerability, but if you didn't listen to the power of vulnerability I strongly advice you to give it a try.

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One book that had a large influence on me was "How to Argue & Win Every Time: At Home, At Work, In Court, Everywhere, Everyday" by Gerry Spence. The portion of the book which spoke to me the most about arguing in relationships. The author poses the idea of intentionally losing when arguing with a loved one since the victory will usually be a hollow one. It might seem like simple advice, but I found it extremely influ…

Love that this came up. He is the type of man one wants to emulate. This had a huge positive influence on my romantic relationships and will probably help with my family one day.

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"Sustainable Energy Without the Hot Air" by David MacKay - available for download (http://www.inference.org.uk/sustainable/book/tex/sewtha.pdf).

It really illustrates the enormity of the energy problem and the changes that are needed to make sustainability a reality, especially for densely populated regions like Europe and Japan.

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Animal Farm was a really important book for me. I picked it up aged about 10 or 11 and I remember being really struck by how easily the pigs were able to exploit the other animals' grievances with humans to secure their own power. It felt like a grown-up story with some quite powerful, disturbing meanings under the covers. So I told my English teacher about it and all she told me in response was to go look up the Rus…

I highly recommend Homage to Catalonia if you liked Animal Farm. It really explains how Orwell became disillusioned with communism (while fighting for it).

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The Only Investment Guide You'll Ever Need by Andrew Tobias. It inoculated me against a lot of potentially bad financial decisions. Also a fairly quick and entertaining read - which helps in a dry subject like personal finance. Poland by James Michener - or any other of Michener's historical fiction. Not all of them are great literary works, but because they span thousands of years, they caused me to start thinking g…

Every Michener impacts you differently. Also, his style of writing is unmatched in my opinion. He is a master storyteller and can take any topic to make it interesting.

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"The Dictator's Handbook" by DeMesquita and Smith is a popular take on their academic work that describes a metamodel for reasoning about power and politics that bypasses how things "may" or "should" work and talks about how they "must" work. https://www.amazon.ca/Dictators-Handbook-Behavior-Almost-Pol... And a general +1 for GEB. If you read that as a teenager, you are different for it.

I am giving it a listen to now whilst I get on with other things.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x4aBFDhWpP8

Re: Ask HN: What books changed the way you think about almost everything?

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1984, and the book-within-a-book in it. Sapiens, recently. It had a profound effect on how I think about people, history and progress... Particularly, the points about group size and all th cultural clockwork required for and limiting our ability to function as large groups. Paul Graham's essays, which are kind of a web book. Practical Ethics, by Peter Singer influenced me a lot (made me study philosophy) but I was a…

Yes, the book within 1984. I think that 1984 deserves several re-reads and the nuances of it can only be appreciated if you are in a world of 1984 and share a few of the problems Winston has, including the health ones.
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