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Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Not getting my dog professionally trained. I spent the money to send him to a proper board and train, and it was life changing. Our relationship is better. He is happier and less stressed. I was able to take him off sedatives. Plus it's cool to have a dog with perfect recall that I can take anywhere without worrying. If you can afford it, I can't recommend finding a reputable balanced trainer more highly.

This is interesting. What part of the curriculum do you think made the difference? I feel like this would only be half a solution. That, to work as a pair, you would need some amount of training as well. To better understand your dog's signals to you and know how to respond appropriately.

> What part of the curriculum made the difference.

I think the big difference is in three parts.

First, they are doing the training all day. I simply don't have the time.

Second, the balanced training methodology adds consequences as well as rewards. This is a far more effective methodology. It is what people use to train working K9s like attack dogs and the like.

The last part is mindset. I have a working dog, granted it is a Corgi, and he wants to be working. Instead of making him "be good," I am giving him jobs throughout the day that reward him.

> That, to work as a pair, you would need some amount of training as well.

You would be correct. I got pretty significant training the day I took him home (about 3 hours). After that, we had a few follow hour-long ups. There they show you the commands and behaviors the dog learned, how to interpret there body language, and how to extend them at home.

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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OK here's a dumb one. You know how the label on EVERY toilet bowl cleaner bottle always says "Step 1: flush toilet"? I always dutifully followed those instructions, thinking "hmm, the extra splashing water must be pretty important and help it mix or something." But no. One day I realized it's just that my toilet always started from a flushed state... like a normal person. But they knew somewhere out there, someone wo…

Step 1: Don't not flush toilet.

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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When my then-gf/now-wife and I first moved in together, I got really mad at her because she kept "hiding" my stuff when I left it out for more than a day. I couldn't find anything! At some point, I yelled, "It's like you don't even want to see any of my things when I'm not using them!" Then I stopped for a second. For the first time in my life, it made sense. The whole point of putting things away is to hide them! No…

My theory of how cupboard doors were invented is people had shelves but didn't want to see all their crap displayed in the open. Hiding equals neatness.

What was that HN article recently of Las Vegas and windows on buildings more of something causes distress and less is more soothing to a point.

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

#846

Not using an electric toothbrush. First time I used one it felt like I'd had a proper dental cleaning. An extremely half-assed effort with that kind of brush beats a thorough one with a manual brush. I thought they were a gimmick, but no, they're amazing.

On the flip side, don't brush your gums too much with an electric toothbrush. I destroyed my gums when my parents got me an electric toothbrush when I was 13 - and AFAIK - there's still not really any way to repair it. Please, someone correct me if I'm wrong! Would make my day to be wrong.

Pretty sure they can do a gum graft by taking piece of the roof of your mouth

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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Ive modestly tried to lose weight my whole life. Ive never been fat, but still had to work to keep my calories low. Im 5' 9", and it took 10 years to go from 170 to more like 160. Losing weight made me weaker and caused me to lose muscle. Ive recently started weightlifting for strength (low reps high weights) and the mindset is totally different. With weightlifting to keep your lifts going up you have to eat more. On…

Any advice/links on getting started lifting?

If you have iOS, I highly recommend the Fitbod app. I've tried so many other apps and I just end up doing all this tedious logging that gets frustrating. But Fitbod just outsources all that away to its machine learning backend.

It uses an algorithm to maximize your strength gains and uses the equipment you have at home (or the gym). So even if you only have a few pieces of equipment, it can still create a diverse workout for you.

And it has videos for how to do each exercise, which comes in handy more than you might expect.

I like it because I don't have to keep track of anything, don't have to do any work in terms of number crunching.

It's like having a smart personal coach.

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

#848

"Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?" Worked hard believing it would be rewarded.

Be careful with this one. Hard work, applied correctly, is rewarded. Hard work applied incorrectly is not.

Examples of incorrect application:

* working hard at something not valuable

* working hard at something valuable then giving it away well below market rate

*working hard at something valuable then poorly presenting it, e.g. bad marketing

The second happens when you never ask for a raise/promotion, switch to a market rate job, or start a business that captures the value of the skill.

Re: Ask HN: Something you’ve done your whole life that you realized is wrong?

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post #152

When my then-gf/now-wife and I first moved in together, I got really mad at her because she kept "hiding" my stuff when I left it out for more than a day. I couldn't find anything! At some point, I yelled, "It's like you don't even want to see any of my things when I'm not using them!" Then I stopped for a second. For the first time in my life, it made sense. The whole point of putting things away is to hide them! No…

My wife and I have a rule, "everything needs to have a home." Because if it doesn't have a home, it becomes clutter, and after enough clutter, it finds a home... usually a sub-optimal one, like a junk drawer. The kids (4 and 5) have adapted to this wonderfully. It really helps them. It makes cleanup a trivial task because everything is known to belong somewhere specific. Related to this: the recognition that everythi…

"everything needs to have a home."

This, absolutely.

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