I’ve been there. I lost my marriage, my house, my money, my parents, my job, everything. Literally $100k in the hole with $0 in the bank. Sounds like you know how to survive, which is perfect… here’s what you do. Ditch uber/lyft and get your CDL. They’ll pay you and train you and give you a job. Plus, you get a nice sleeper truck to sleep in that’s more spacious than your car. (If you have the cash, an RV works inste…
I feel like this would be great advice if "CDL" was unambiguously googleable. This might be regional but I have no idea what this is meant to mean.
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#82Successful people usually take it slow. Your goals are (in order):
1.) Any housing.
2.) ???
3.) Average housing for the developed world.
If we take your situation and do a SWOT analysis, your biggest weaknesses are a lack of housing and the fact that nobody cares. The fact that nobody cares is also your biggest strength and represents your biggest opportunity. However, all of that is balanced out by the biggest threat - the longer you are homeless the greater the chances that you will be victimized. If you become a victim, the fact that nobody cares will only be a weakness.
As a consequence and since your goal is any housing, you’re going to have to change your career goals. Uber/Lyft are too expensive for you right now. Freelance tech will not be an option because you won’t be an attractive candidate until you secure housing. Your goal right now is any job so that you can secure housing.
Once you have any job, the fact that nobody cares becomes an advantage. Here’s a nasty fact of post-homelessness - it’s really hard to rent anything without an existing address. But, if you have an easily verifiable job and are willing to accept questionable housing, you can secure some housing. It might not be great because the landlords don’t care. But the system is designed to err on the side of the housed, so they’re stepping stones.
Once you have housing, you have three readily available options - a fixed address, easy cleanliness and a place to set up your desktop. You can start dreaming then. The size of the dream/leap though depends on income so for the first few years, you may find that your career/housing goals scale with where you are financially at the moment.
Once you secure housing, you’ll get to deal with all sorts of magical issues. Anecdotally, you’ll have a bit of trouble adapting to becoming housed after being unhoused for about six months per year that you were unhoused. The most common one that I hear is that you’ll mourn homelessness while simultaneously feeling like a real fucking loser for mourning homelessness. That sounds fun, said no reasonable person ever.
The most important thing right now is to remember that you have got this. Asking this question here means that you have all the skill you need. You’re going to go through the darkest of humanity for a spell, but I’d bet all I have in you. You’ve got this homie.
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#83I’ve been there. I lost my marriage, my house, my money, my parents, my job, everything. Literally $100k in the hole with $0 in the bank. Sounds like you know how to survive, which is perfect… here’s what you do. Ditch uber/lyft and get your CDL. They’ll pay you and train you and give you a job. Plus, you get a nice sleeper truck to sleep in that’s more spacious than your car. (If you have the cash, an RV works inste…
I feel like this would be great advice if "CDL" was unambiguously googleable. This might be regional but I have no idea what this is meant to mean.
“Define:CDL”
Where I’m from at least, commercial drivers license fills the first two pages.
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#84First of all I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your mother and grandmother. Losing one relative is hard enough, but losing another and then experiencing a separation is quite a lot to go through. In your spare time, it may be good to visit the Switchpoint center to help get their advice and support: https://switchpointcrc.org 948 N 1300 W, St. George, UT 84770 With regards to the $890 you would pay to continue driv…
Can’t say enough good things about libraries.
Try and get a job in food service. Mostly evenings + free food-and it leaves your days free to work.
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#85Earlier quoted context omitted.
If he switches from contract/1099 to a wage job I wonder if child support will start garnishing the fuck out of it. This is the black hole a lot of people get sucked into and end up having to start their own business to buy some runway because the courts very much enjoy kicking non custodial parents in the teeth to the point they cannot get one foot on the ground.
Supporting their kids is one of their responsibilities. Child support is income-based. I haven’t had to navigate that system so don’t have specific advice, but I’m not going to support someone dodging child support.
If someone can't afford gas or tools to work, then the child suffers more.
Even if it isnt the norm, traps and perverse situations abound.
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#88Earlier quoted context omitted.
Updated my comment. You are very correct.
I didn't intend for you to do that but I appreciate the gesture. FWIW I don't usually give general "advice for the homeless" in these threads either, despite having directly experienced it myself and volunteered with homeless people for years after getting out. The choice of action depends too much on local/regional institutions and dynamics, and individual particulars.
I hope op finds the resources they need, and gets to a better place in life, as you have.
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#89I have a spare laptop I could ship, it's running Linux now and cannot "officially" run Win11. It's a little older, Lenovo X1 Carbon with a chipped case & wonky touch bar for the Fn keys, but it works perfectly fine. If you're interested and want to drop a way to contact you, I'll figure out a way to ship it to you. Otherwise, as much as I loathe sending you to Facebook, the local "buy nothing" groups another commento…
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#90> I know I can earn 3-4x more doing freelance tech, but I can’t do that from a car.
I'm seeing cheap x86 laptops on Amazon for like 120-150 USD. If you need more computing power, you might be able to rent it out via a VPS and other services. VPSes for example charge cheap prices by the hour (cents to single-digit dollars).[1] You don't need that much computing power all the time on your local computer. You can get an inverter to power your laptop from the car. IDK about your available mobile data plans, but you don't need much for work. You won't be able to rely much on YouTube, but you can get by with the textual internet.