Ask HN: Will I Ever Recover?

I'm soon to be 38 and despite thinking of it all the time never attempted to go ahead with my own startup.

You're much more a success than I am.

What you are going through is grief, for a company ; so even without any more information, as anyone who lost people, I would tend to say: "yes you will recover". Here's one that I saw the other day and really resonated: https://everything2.com/title/You+have+a+sad+feeling+for+a+m...

I casually mentioned no one has been prosecuted. That wasn’t my proof. The proof is the law itself and what Peterson said about it.

Your Q is irrelevant here as Peterson wasn’t discussing what was written as law, but his narrative.

The software is called Amazing Marvin (https://amazingmarvin.com/). Marvin has a modular system of features that they call Strategies, one of which is Affirmations, which is a set of user-defined messages that it pulls a random message from once a day to show above your tasks. I mostly use it for inspirational quotes.

I'm pretty happy with Marvin overall. It natively supports time estimates and different types of task scheduling (specific days, weeks, months). I came to it from Todoist, Remember the Milk, and Outlook tasks. I had also tried Taskwarrior. My only complaint is that performance is not so good once you have more than a couple hundred active tasks. But Strategies are great. I love that they can be toggled and how many there are.

Yes, once you do what you need to do to trust yourself once again, you will feel positive things, and think positively.

You're currently feeling negatively ("miserable") and thinking negatively ("I am no longer young"). That is fine. [Do that, it's a healthy experience!]

You'll probably want to simultaneously take care of your body and mind, while you are feeling negative. That way your physical experience of Life can be positive.

If you are having unsatisfactory difficulties recovering, get a Licensed counselor to ask you self-reflective questions. That can un-stuck you.

Congratulations on having a start-up of your own, sincerely.

Did you miss the part where he yearned for the days when 50s men could come home and repress [sic] women? He brought up 50s men again later. Sure I exaggerated since he doesn’t explicitly say hit your wife. However if one is to say imagine a 1950s testosterone filled man comes home after being the sole bread winner and oppressed his wife, there will be a non zero amount of people who will think that can or will involve hitting your wife.

He didn’t say much about their flaws. He kept hedging for how they are the good and better ones. He for sure never phrased this as “as flaws as 50ties men were” in the context of the whole thing.

Knowing Jordan Peterson’s sexism, racism, religious bigotry, homophobia, transphobia, disregard for the poor, and his own hypocrisy of his own mean advice and sayings on drug addiction, if a statement about a 50s guy coming home to repress/oppress his wife doesn’t scream a big issue to you, nothing will. You will be able to turn anything he says into a positive, and I will not see his sneaky wording as anything but that.

I mean in his Kyle Kulinski discussion recently and before that too, he talks about how “remember when [gay] pride used to be a sin?” As if that’s an indictiment on being gay. And that gay and trans advocacy is tricking people into being gay and trans. It’s insanely baffling to appreciate someone’s words when they actually are saying straight cis people are being tricked into being gay or trans. No less to the point of a morale panic. I can’t give any benefit of the doubt to such an overt bigot.

> Now, is he right? It's hard to tell, but the phenomenon he describes definitely exists to some degree.

He’s probably wrong. His own philosophies with all this are bankrupt to begin with. He talks about hierarchies being natural and the best with the alphas rising up. Yet marriage is the opposite of that. It forces exclusive monogamy and is pushed down through culture and society. He has been asked by Rogan and others about this contradiction to his work. His answers are quite wanting. It’s obvious there’s no answer except monogamy benefits him and many of his fans who aren’t the most playboy types and are likely conservative leaning thus want “traditions”.