Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
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#82Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#83Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#84I am not sure if I agree with all the advice here. I think the first thing you should do is celebrate. Take a month and spend it on a tropical beach, or whatever your dream location may be. If you like company, bring along some friends and pay for them. The point is to tell yourself, this is my month to relax, enjoy, and get used to things. No need to think about what to do next, just have fun. Then, when the month i…
Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#85If you want to get into that after your Masters', I guarantee that you it will eat the totality of your spare time !
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#86Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#87The most general survey shows us that the two foes of human happiness are pain and boredom. We may go further, and say that in the degree in which we are fortunate enough to get away from the one, we approach the other. Life presents, in fact, a more or less violent oscillation between the two. The reason of this is that each of these two poles stands in a double antagonism to the other, external or objective, and inner or subjective. Needy surroundings and poverty produce pain; while, if a man is more than well off, he is bored. Accordingly, while the lower classes are engaged in a ceaseless struggle with need, in other words, with pain, the upper carry on a constant and often desperate battle with boredom. The inner or subjective antagonism arises from the fact that, in the individual, susceptibility to pain varies inversely with susceptibility to boredom, because susceptibility is directly proportionate to mental power. Let me explain. A dull mind is, as a rule, associated with dull sensibilities, nerves which no stimulus can affect, a temperament, in short, which does not feel pain or anxiety very much, however great or terrible it may be. Now, intellectual dullness is at the bottom of that vacuity of soul which is stamped on so many faces, a state of mind which betrays itself by a constant and lively attention to all the trivial circumstances in the external world. This is the true source of boredom—a continual panting after excitement, in order to have a pretext for giving the mind and spirits something to occupy them. The kind of things people choose for this purpose shows that they are not very particular, as witness the miserable pastimes they have recourse to, and their ideas of social pleasure and conversation: or again, the number of people who gossip on the doorstep or gape out of the window. It is mainly because of this inner vacuity of soul that people go in quest of society, diversion, amusement, luxury of every sort, which lead many to extravagance and misery. Nothing is so good a protection against such misery as inward wealth, the wealth of the mind, because the greater it grows, the less room it leaves for boredom. The inexhaustible activity of thought! Finding ever new material to work upon in the multifarious phenomena of self and nature, and able and ready to form new combinations of them,—there you have something that invigorates the mind, and apart from moments of relaxation, sets it far above the reach of boredom.
Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#88—let your mind wonder to what you want
-if you used to workout to get attention for the opposite sex it makes sense why you stopped, seek out physical activity for the sake of physical activity with no goal in mind
-get into habit of doing something daily
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#89Re: Ask HN: 27, accidentally became wealthy, lost drive. What should I do?
#90Then consider if there's a situation in which you'd like to write software. Would you like to write algorithms to aid cancer research, or improve access to banking in Africa, or teach children robotics? It's more comfortable to work or volunteer on these types of things when you own an apartment etc, and hopefully more fulfilling than improving FAANG's ad sales.
If software was only interesting for the money, maybe you could quit. But what was interesting? You have enough money (spent wisely) to do something completely different, like be an artist, actor, volunteer anywhere that seems interesting etc, and it's probably not a good idea to quit without having some other plan in mind.
You can also try https://www.studentenwerk-muenchen.de/en/advisory-network/ps...