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Re: Ask HN: What are good resources for life advice?

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Disclaimer: This is it’s a series of posts on how to get better at life written by someone that ended their own life.

Why is that a disclaimer and why does your comment sound like knocking on something good? If you haven’t watched the documentary “The Internet’s Own Boy” [1], check it out. The amount of harassment (mental and emotional) he faced could also bring most other people to take steps that they never would’ve imagined themselves doing. It’s very easy to knock down others. But you haven’t lived his life, and you just cannot…

'How to be happy and not to kill yourself' by a man who's killed himself. Seriously?

Re: Ask HN: What are good resources for life advice?

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post #49

Jordan Peterson's Maps of Meaning, 12 Rules for Life, and his many tens of hours of content on YouTube. If you're willing to entertain the idea for a brief moment that the Bible has any wisdom at all, his Psychological Significance of the Biblical Stories is a must. I recommend them even if you aren't willing, in fact. They converted me, and i was a fairly nihilistic atheist for almost all of my thinking life.

I see Jordan Pererson gets downvoted here, but recommend all critic to read “12 rules for life” themselves. This book helped me a lot.

I did read it. I decided not to take life advice from someone who writes, about a two-year-old child: “I picked him bodily off the playground structure, and threw him thirty feet down the field. No, I didn’t. But it would have been better for him if I had.” It’s a ‘joke’, but it’s a weird joke. I believe he thinks this over-aggression makes him seem dominant and powerful; in reality, a grown man getting so furious at an infant that he fantasises about throwing it is just odd. I can see why young men on the internet find it appealing to be told that being aggressive is actually cool and powerful and good, but that doesn’t actually make it good advice.

I also don’t agree with his sexual-marketplace ideas about how women choose mates, and why it’s a good thing for women to choose men who behave badly towards them because they’ll change: “[female lobsters] identify the top guy quickly, and become irresistibly attracted to him. This is brilliant strategy, in my estimation. It’s also one used by females of many different species, including humans. ... His aggression has made him successful, so he’s likely to react [to the female] in a dominant, irritable manner. Furthermore, he’s large, healthy and powerful. It’s no easy task to switch his attention from fighting to mating. (If properly charmed, however, he will change his behaviour towards the female. This is the lobster equivalent of Fifty Shades of Grey, the fastest-selling paperback of all time, and the eternal Beauty-and-the-Beast plot of archetypal romance. This is the pattern of behaviour continually represented in the sexually explicit literary fantasies that are as popular among women as provocative images of naked women are among men.)” Is this good advice or information for men or women? Personally, I don’t think so, but since it bears absolutely no relation to how I chose my partner, I suppose Peterson would say I am some kind of outlier or unusual female. Readers may make their own minds up about the quote.

Re: Ask HN: What are good resources for life advice?

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post #75

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It's funny. He took like one political stance and then got labeled awful things. We can just skip past the trans thing. It's ok. For those that don't know: he interpreted a law that was passed in Canada as compelled speech law and decided that was a line that shall not be crossed, no matter the presumed benefit. That line happened to coincidentally involve trans people and, well, it's the late 2010s, so that speaks f…

> It takes about three minutes of listening to him talk on the subject to understand that his singular life's mission is to figure out what is necessary to prevent totalitarianism ever again I spent some time listening to him, and that wasn't my impression. It struck me as a mixture of contrarianism, attention seeking behaviour and latent transphobia.

My impression is that your comment is a mixture of contrarianism, attention seeking behaviour and latent transphobophobia. Can't refute it, can you?

Re: Ask HN: What are good resources for life advice?

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I frequently scan Quora for interesting perspectives on life. I really like to learn from the personal stories of individuals. Of course, you have to take everything with a grain of salt, as Quora is not peer-reviewed or scholarly supported, but exactly this raw and unfiltered content makes it attractive.

You can learn best from the mistakes of others. It's a kind of wisdom of the crowds-approach.

(I don't work for Quora, nor do I participate in their partner program)

Re: Ask HN: What are good resources for life advice?

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post #49

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I see Jordan Pererson gets downvoted here, but recommend all critic to read “12 rules for life” themselves. This book helped me a lot.

It's worth all the down votes and more. I'm sure you can divide the down voters into a handful of camps. Those who are somehow convinced he has ties to the despicable alt right, those who are annoyed they keep hearing about him, and those who have actually heard him speak but, ianno, think taking responsibility and straightening yourself out is bad or something. Maybe they're just afraid of confronting their shadow.

> Those who are somehow convinced he has ties to the despicable alt right,

When he's hosting two prominent alt right figures as guests on his podcast [0], I think it's pretty fair to say that he has ties to the alt right.

[0]: https://twitter.com/jordanbpeterson/status/11164318379565834...

Re: Ask HN: What are good resources for life advice?

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post #49

Jordan Peterson's Maps of Meaning, 12 Rules for Life, and his many tens of hours of content on YouTube. If you're willing to entertain the idea for a brief moment that the Bible has any wisdom at all, his Psychological Significance of the Biblical Stories is a must. I recommend them even if you aren't willing, in fact. They converted me, and i was a fairly nihilistic atheist for almost all of my thinking life.

I see Jordan Pererson gets downvoted here, but recommend all critic to read “12 rules for life” themselves. This book helped me a lot.

I feel like I tend to agree with Peterson 80-90% of the time, what with all the clean-your-room stuff, but the last 10-20 I really disagree with

Re: Ask HN: What are good resources for life advice?

#90
Morgan Housel for financial advice. Just Google the name and follow his Twitter feed if you have an account there.

I have learned a ton through playing poker. The game has a lot of carry-over into real life. Luck vs Skill. Variance. Take a look at the link for a great review on a great book about poker.

https://25iq.com/2018/10/13/lessons-from-annie-duke-author-o...

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