Have bipolar disorder and struggled with depression from 13 to 20ish. The right medication, and constant work on reframing your thinking makes a huge difference. I still struggle with mania and occasional bouts of depression, but it's no longer debilitating.
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I feel you, myself I have two toddlers (2, 4) that was a life change for me. Responsibility, scream, lack of sleep, inability to what I used to do to get some energy boost. Which escalated during working from home. No advice from my side, as I haven't found any good way. Take care,
6 and 3 year old. I feel bad about comments like this. Kids are the greatest gift and I cherish every second with them. Getting to spend more time at home with them has been a god send. I feel like so much of this comes from a lack of control when people feel (for some reason) like they should be able to "control" their kids. Maybe let go of the control thing and just enjoy your time with them?
A kid screaming in your ear when you're trying to have a zoom meeting is cute for only so long.
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I'll also add a suggestion for Martin Seligman's "Learned Optimism" [0]. A mindfulness practice on self-talk (along with giving up sugar and reducing carbs) has made a huge difference on managing my mental health. [0] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Learned_optimism#Seligman's_me...
Yea, that book is great. Another book, which includes those ideas and many others, is "The Resilience Factor" by Karen Reivich and Andrew Shatte.
I want to jump on and suggest a CBT book - Feeling Good by Dr. David Burns. It is the single biggest factor for helping me out of depression.
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#74I want to kill myself so I'm gonna go with "yes"
It’s ok to have those feelings, I think many do but they will not last forever friend. Peace and love is all around you <3
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#75National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: (800) 273-8255
I don't know if it's still the case or if it was a fluke experience, but they left me on hold for 30 minutes when I called in 2015.
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#76Btw, HN can do polls too. See https://news.ycombinator.com/newsfaq.html .
In all my years reading HN, I've never seen a native HN poll trending to the front page. And I consider myself obsessed with it. It's my primary website to visit on the internet.
I'm not saying that they may not have made the front page, just that I haven't seen one.
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#77No.
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#78Earlier quoted context omitted.
I feel you, myself I have two toddlers (2, 4) that was a life change for me. Responsibility, scream, lack of sleep, inability to what I used to do to get some energy boost. Which escalated during working from home. No advice from my side, as I haven't found any good way. Take care,
6 and 3 year old. I feel bad about comments like this. Kids are the greatest gift and I cherish every second with them. Getting to spend more time at home with them has been a god send. I feel like so much of this comes from a lack of control when people feel (for some reason) like they should be able to "control" their kids. Maybe let go of the control thing and just enjoy your time with them?
There are tons of reasons to be having a hard time with kids at home during the pandemic. I don’t know if trying to control them is even in the top five for most parents.
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#79I was just talking to a friend about how deep my depression has gotten. It's at the point now where I'm too scared to go to sleep at night because I know it means I have to wake up and do another day.
I was suicidally depressed in 2017. A combination of medication, CBT, talk therapy and the love and care of other helping professionals got me better. I've never felt better. It gets better. My email is in my user info.
I wasn't suicidal in 2017, but every day felt like a literal nightmare, I hated living, every day was pain, and I didn't care if I lived or died. Today I'm happy and healthy. You can get out. Email is also in profile.
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#80I feel like I should leave these here: Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Association: 1-800-662-HELP National Suicide Prevention Helpline: 1-800-273-TALK Free Crisis Text Helpline: 741-741 Trevor project Helpline (crisis intervention specialized in LGBT issues) : 1-866-488-7386
suicide hotlines are not the cure all that they are presented to be. 'just talk it out bro' really is not the answer a lot of the time. there are plenty of entirely rational reasons to kill yourself.