Talk about it with your wife.
Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
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Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#72Consult your experiences and channel your internal value systems into altruistic endeavors that could help others. Communication comes into play here more than ever. If you think you have something good for the world, you need to somehow deliver that message.
I see the Arts as a great medium especially for this type of communication. A combination of science and creativity seems to be able to pierce through the noise around us and deliver the signal (message) in a gentle way.
EDIT: A playful example: https://artful.design/
Hope you will find your way :)
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#73Just like to add "Life is NOT a Journey", by Alan Watts, here:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rBpaUICxEhk
Life is not a journey helps put things in perspective.
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#74Once you’ve conquered Maslow’s original hierarchy of needs, dig into his final need that he added later in life. Achieve not for yourself but for your community or your world. Transcend the self, and feel that higher order need. As another commenter mentioned, altruistic endeavors are a good choice. Even things like being a Boy Scout leader can be hugely fulfilling of that broader need.
Where do I start? What's the first baby step? I googled "Volunteering opportunities" many times without success so far ;)
Baby steps?
Paint smiley faces or flowers on small stones and randomly leave them on sidewalks around your town. No more than one every few blocks. Never check on them again.
Study karma.
Learn how to adjust your presence to uplift the people you pass by. Positive comments, compliments, and even learning how to hope for someone’s recovery when they insult you.
Call a local publicly funded organization and ask if they have volunteer opportunities.
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#75Earlier quoted context omitted.
Where do I start? What's the first baby step? I googled "Volunteering opportunities" many times without success so far ;)
What city do you live in? In San Francisco or Seattle, Google "soup kitchen volunteer {city}". Low commitment, no special skills required. Go try it. Talk to the other people there. Ask where else they volunteer. You can literally google this today and help this week. Are you following Black Lives Matter? Get involved at the local level. Research your police department and social services funding for your city. Reall…
Barcelona. I will try to follow your advice locally. There is no shortage of social emergencies in southern Europe.
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#76Earlier quoted context omitted.
Where do I start? What's the first baby step? I googled "Volunteering opportunities" many times without success so far ;)
Baby steps? Paint smiley faces or flowers on small stones and randomly leave them on sidewalks around your town. No more than one every few blocks. Never check on them again. Study karma. Learn how to adjust your presence to uplift the people you pass by. Positive comments, compliments, and even learning how to hope for someone’s recovery when they insult you. Call a local publicly funded organization and ask if they…
Maybe I should do this. I'd feel like a hippie, drawing smiles on stones, but ... who knows
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#77When you reach the top of the mountain, the only Zen you will find is the Zen you brought with you. Meaning: you must find fulfillment within yourself and not in outside things or accomplishments.
I'm kind of sick of myself, honestly.
That seems like a good place to start. Figure out why and what it would take to correct.
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#78Congratulations on your life this far, you have certainly checked off everything there is in this material world. Honestly, I mean it. Your work ethic is great, as is your abilities to get you this far. How is your faith life, do you believe in religion? As some others have alluded to, having gratitude and giving back I feel are your next steps you should consider taking. I think you are at a great time in your life…
Where would you start?
Lots of possibilities: Local churches (where young adults go), philosophy groups, search around on billboards and campuses, yoga classes (ie. Art of Living), etc. Some groups are open to newcomers. Just keep in mind, many groups try to suck you in and you may need to review why and if you should continue from time to time. Any place you start, you might connect to people drawn to you, so could end up in a different group after some time.
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#79This may sound like a flippant comment, but perhaps you're ready to start exploring the great unknown: yourself. "Know thyself" is one of the tenants of old, and people naturally think they know themselves well. (I used to think the same way too... but it's actually an illusion - a self deceit that we have all built in.) Start by digging into your own uneasiness. Where does it come from? What triggers it? You'll find…
Are you sure? I spent the last 30 years focusing on myself, on what I wanted to do, to learn, to get, to reach...
Idk...
>Start by digging into your own uneasiness. Where does it come from? What triggers it? You'll find some personal thing, most likely from childhood, tucked away in the recesses of your psyche that drives you. Meditation and self-honesty are key here.
I somehow feel like my "uneasiness" are the real engine that makes me go around so fast, honestly faster than most of the people I have around. Do I need a cure from it? I am not sure I am ready to kill the engine.
Re: Ask HN: I implemented the life I designed: perfect but I feel lost. What now?
#80Earlier quoted context omitted.
Where would you start?
Lots of possibilities: Local churches (where young adults go), philosophy groups, search around on billboards and campuses, yoga classes (ie. Art of Living), etc. Some groups are open to newcomers. Just keep in mind, many groups try to suck you in and you may need to review why and if you should continue from time to time. Any place you start, you might connect to people drawn to you, so could end up in a different g…
ohhh would love to join philosophy groups... is it a thing?