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Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

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Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

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1. Ditching people who were emotionally abusing me pretending they were my friends to take advantage of me (financial and/or emotional)

2. Switching away from Windows to GNU/Linux

3. Investing in stock market

4. Eating organic and vegan only

5. Drinking only bottled water

6. Working out and learning martial arts

7. Working on my self-esteem

8. Believing in myself

9. Keeping small paper notes for everything I do and have to do

10. Avoiding crazy girls/women like every other good boy/man should

11. Being honest with myself

12. Taking care of the future me (then thanking the past me)

13. Fixing my teeth

14. Attempting to leave my country of birth

15. Realizing that being either depressed or happy are choices every human has to make for themselves

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#642

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those studies are not 'science'. Have you heard of 'replication crisis'[1]? Also see the other top post currently on HN [2].. And, Yes universities are filled with idiots, egotists and scamsters with their own nefarious motives. How do you explain the absurd 90% hypothesis validation? [3] you have your own brain to observe and meditate on, why do you need some authority to tell you what to do. >If you want to prejudi…

> those studies are not 'science'. Have you heard of 'replication crisis'? Just because there has been a replication crisis doesn't mean you can dismiss all scientific studies willy nilly. Those are not some Deepak Chopra style BS, they are actual clinical studies (and I've just sent a sample, there are tons). And the "replication crisis" argument doesn't really hold up if independent studies reach similar conclusion…

>We are not talking about Psychology studies but medical clinical studies.

I went to the first reference from your wikipedia link

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/19123875

Conclusion: Most clinical trials on meditation practices are generally characterized by poor methodological quality with significant threats to validity in every major quality domain assessed. Despite a statistically significant improvement in the methodological quality over time, it is imperative that future trials on meditation be rigorous in design, execution, analysis, and the reporting of results.

Second reference from wikipedia

http://ebooks.cambridge.org/chapter.jsf?bid=CBO9780511816789...

The Cambridge Handbook of Consciousness,

Cambridge Handbooks in Psychology

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#643

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not a hippie, but you do meditation and fasts... Okay, that came out a bit incisive. Do you have any scientific backing to support those claims? I'm especially interested in fasting. Not eating for 3 days a month does not seem especially healthy. Then I see the claim that it cures cancer and forgive me if all my alarm bells go off.

Anecdotal, I was like you, extremely skeptical of meditation. Seriously, try it, it's free! Immediate benefits: * Clear, focused mind. I stop hopping from topic to topic in my mind "oh should I tidy the apartment, work on my website, etc etc" to a far more focused state. What you should do next is there with extreme clarity. You stop reading random junk on the internet too, and get down to it * Much better sleep (thi…

> * Perhaps white noise on headphones if you need it, timer on your laptop or phone

If you have sox[0] installed, just run

     play -n synth 20:00 pinknoise 
(or whitenoise if it suits your environment or preference better).

[0]: http://sox.sf.net/

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#644

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Not a hippie, but you do meditation and fasts... Okay, that came out a bit incisive. Do you have any scientific backing to support those claims? I'm especially interested in fasting. Not eating for 3 days a month does not seem especially healthy. Then I see the claim that it cures cancer and forgive me if all my alarm bells go off.

Anecdotal, I was like you, extremely skeptical of meditation. Seriously, try it, it's free! Immediate benefits: * Clear, focused mind. I stop hopping from topic to topic in my mind "oh should I tidy the apartment, work on my website, etc etc" to a far more focused state. What you should do next is there with extreme clarity. You stop reading random junk on the internet too, and get down to it * Much better sleep (thi…

From your description, it seems like I've been meditating in the shower for most of my life.

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#645
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How about stopped doing? There was a weekend where I had spent close to 20 hours playing World of Warcraft to farm materials and reagents for the epic engineering mount. After I had finished it, and spent the requisite time showing it off in-game, I looked around and realized that all of thrill of lifelong learning and making things in the "real" world has been subsumed when all my spare time was consumed in a virtua…

I'm trying to get myself to enjoy gaming again. I can't seem to just relax and play a game without thinking I'm wasting my time. It's also hard to get the same high in a game that I do when I solve a bug or add a feature to whatever project I'm working on.

I am the same, these days everytime I try to load up a game I keep thinking I could have spent this time learning something new or building a game myself.

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#646

Earlier quoted context omitted.

I think it's very presumptuous to tell people what is meaningful and not. I have no interest in yachts or sports cars, something stereotypically bought by rich people. OTOH, I have great pride in my current DF save, and in being good at speedrunning some games, for instance. Neither of this things cost me a penny. What makes this less meaningful that something bought with money?

The parent comment didn't say anything about sports cars or yachts. Those are potential answers but lowest on list of meaningful things far as I consider. You could be investing in business, learning new skills/hobbies, going interesting places, forming lasting relationships, working on any number of problems in the world around you, working on problems in your life, and so on. Yet, your most meaningful moment is the…

I could be learning new things or hobbies? Like mastering SMW2, for example? :) Oh sorry, that's not meaningful enough for you, as opposed to investing in businesses (making money for its own sake, I can see just nothing wrong with that), going interesting places (sightseeing, such a productive activity), forming lasting bonds with people (lasting 80 years, tops).

And what makes you think that playing games and doing any of those things are mutually exclusive, I might ask? Is reading and writing mutually exclusive? Stop reading, I say! Is the most meaningful moment of your life reading something someone greater than you has written on a piece of paper or a computer disk for profit? (btw nowhere did I say my most meaningful moment was beating a video game, that would be my master's in physics, so far, but that's beside the point) I mean, to paraphrase, certainly do it if you want and enjoy it. Some things do have objectively more impact than others, though, with your book probably not existing unless someone stopped reading theirs for a while to create them with expectation of such impact. That you even like it sort of endorses getting out to create or improve something similar as more meaningful. Rereading this makes me realize how misguided this point is. I assume that it's all or nothing for you, indulge in a hobby and you are a leech on society, incapable of creation and mooching off the work of greater men. Lol.

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#647
I buy refurb/secondhand high quality items. None of them have failed me. When you don't buy retail you can often negotiate, especially when you're not dealing with commercial/institutional sellers. Frugal living without compromising quality is art and science. I love it!

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#648
1) Fixing my worsening health symptoms which started almost 3 years ago. It had gotten to a point where I could no longer think or be productive for the past 6 months. After spending every waking moment researching every ailment that matched my symptoms, I eventually discovered I had Hashimoto's and had been hypothyroid for a really long time. This was after making the rounds with several specialists who had no idea what was wrong with me. My recommendation is to take charge of your health and be the best expert of your body. Being healthy is extremely important not just for the obvious reasons, but because everything stems from it. Don't take your health for granted, ever.

2) Learning German which taught me important memorization techniques to carry over to other areas of my life.

3) Stretching & flexibility exercises. I've been a heavy weightlifter ever since college but only began to realize recently that lifting weights can have detrimental effects on your body if that's the only thing you do. You'll become less flexible and more rigid which makes you more prone to injury. Especially with our profession where we're propped on a chair for most of the day, it's important to make sure our bodies can achieve a full range of motion to prevent any skeletal or joint issues down the road.

4) Cooking and eating a ketogenic diet. I'm much more satiated and rarely go hungry throughout the day. Cooking was extremely daunting at first but not so much when you really start doing it. It's an essential skill to have, ensures you're eating whole foods and putting nothing processed in your body, and gets you invites to more potlucks.

5) Writing everything down. My Evernote has exploded within the last year. I keep everything there and it's saved my ass countless times. You'll thank yourself later when you get into the habit of writing everything down.

That's all I can think of right now. What's exciting to me after having wrote this is that all these things were realized only within the last year or so. It's fascinating how much we can improve in such a short amount of time as long as we are consistent with always trying to grow and learn.

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#649

Saying "No" and giving back. Constantly remind yourself that "this is entirely optional," whether it's a lunch meeting, a product feature, or your entire career. It helps you be more present—in the moment. If it doesn't excite you enough to be in the moment, say no next time. Eventually, your schedule will be more and more interesting and engaging to you. We become a slave to "yes" without realizing it. Derek Sivers…

That all sounds great, if you're independently wealthy or at least have a well-padded bank account. What if the "option" you have is turning your entire family out onto the street if you decline? The "give back" mantra is a bourgeois affectation.

There's a lot of things one can give that don't require buckets of cash, perhaps they meant something along the lines of:

* time (contribute to a project, help a neighbor paint their living room, teach a friend to weave baskets or something)

* kindness (listen to a friend's troubles over a beer, or assume the best in someone else's efforts, as opposed to criticizing)

I agree that when I practice those things I am happier for it, anyway.

Re: Ask HN: What was your “why didn't I start doing this sooner” moment?

#650

3 things for me: 1) Meditation, I used to think it was something hippies did. I now think its worth 10 IQ points. I honestly can't recommend it enough. 2) Sleep, I'm getting close to 40 and the last 2 times I pulled all nighters I ended up deleting pretty much all the code I wrote from 11pm onward. 3) Occasional Fasts. I normally fast from 6pm until noon the next day but I now do one 3 day fast each month. I think th…

I practiced vipassana for 30 minutes a day for months. I don't remember what happened in my life but I stopped meditation and haven't gone back to it since. I may have reprioritized my time as daily exercise was already eating away enough time.

I have become more mindful even without practicing meditation anymore so it seems I did pick up a new skill/habit from training.

I think I will give it another try.

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