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For starters..based on your self evaluation, I would suggest:
1. Wake up at 4.00-4.30 AM. 2. Go for a walk within short distance of your neighborhood. 3. Start journaling…2-3 pages by hand. Write after you return home from your morning walk.
Do this for at least 6 weeks.
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> You need to see a therapist You should reword that. Otherwise how did humanity last this long? Psychotherapy is less than two centuries old. You should instead say something like, "One option is to see a therapist." There are friends, elders, books, and a number of other ways to climb out of a mental rut. Traipsing "Psychology Today" for a therapist who will charge the insurance $150 for 40 minutes of a session, th…
I recently looked into seeing a therapist for reasons similar to the OP's. I tried lyra. All the wording and questions ask screamed to me "these are not my type of people". I'm not going to go into specifics but imagine you walked into a help conference and every table had energy stones, power of pyramids, astrology books, etc... If you're anything like me you'd walk out. Once I made it past all that it recommended s…
I assume non-white majority countries also have psychologists/therapists, though.
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> You need to see a therapist You should reword that. Otherwise how did humanity last this long? Psychotherapy is less than two centuries old. You should instead say something like, "One option is to see a therapist." There are friends, elders, books, and a number of other ways to climb out of a mental rut. Traipsing "Psychology Today" for a therapist who will charge the insurance $150 for 40 minutes of a session, th…
Yes, too often "You need to see a therapist" is just a euphemism for "I don't want to listen to your problems." This is an important data point and a general trend toward the cheapening of human relationships. Friendship means something very specific, and for a lot of people now it means only the superficial. Anything deeper than that is actively discouraged. I think of those surveys about friendship took this kind o…
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How do u find a therapist? I’m a bit weary to discuss super personal things with someone I don’t know even if they’re a professional. How can I find someone I trust and is actually good? Not like the movies where the clock is up and ok next issue. My work offers a mental health service but I’ve looked at their TOS and no thanks. Sometimes I feel like just suspending the world background process and being still would…
I used TherapyDen to find the only therapist I saw (so I'm no expert). But lots of therapists there have videos so you get a sense of who they are and what they focus on. I did enjoy the therapist I ended up seeing for a year. https://www.therapyden.com/
Accept what happened, and begin again.
You wanted to meditate and get into an empty state, it didn’t happen, your thoughts strayed, so what? Begin again.
I see all of life’s challenges as nothing more than the chance to practise acceptance until I must ultimately accept my own death, so plenty of practise is preferred.
That’s not to say I don’t have ambition and experience joy, quite the opposite. By focusing on acceptance I am able to live happily in the present more often without guilt or anxiety.
So how do you begin again in life? Answer three questions:
What do I have? What do I want? How can I use what I have to get what I want?
I think that it's quite hard to handle the lack of sleep for more mature people so that might be a problem, but please don't think that having kids is too late. It's too late in your 70'ies.
It got my shit together in my late 30ies. Got married and got two kids.
I spent a lot of time on making myself more attractive to the opposite sex prior to meeting my wife. I ran and worked out a lot and managed to attract some attention which I didn't get when I was a nerdy fat guy.
I never lacked work but had some some time off work because I'm weird and quirky and people usually don't get me the first time.
I really like what I'm doing with my life now (being soon 45) as opposed to how I behaved 10 years ago.
So yes, it seems that its possible to turn your life around. :)
You need to see a therapist. Your problem is largely on your outlook on where you are in life. This is not meant to be a buck up or shut up comment, it's just that you can't improve your life until you change your outlook on things. You won't be able to move forward on things until you confront your feelings and accept your position to move out of it. To answer your question, yes. My 30's were a mess with a divorce,…
A therapist is helpful but I would also suggest seeing a psychiatrist. Clinical depression and mood issues need to be treated with medication. I would recommend finding a psychiatrist and get a referral for therapist from them if you are able to. You would be able to work together with both medication and theraphy to get better. It will take bit of a time to get better but don't be discouraged, OP. Progress will be s…
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Chomsky? He's a linguist, what does that have to do with Psychoanalysis? Feynman? He's a physicist, what does that have to do with Psychoanalysis? ... This list very much sounds like something the marketing team of an online therapy startup would put together and post to Wikipedia and tell their colleagues to contribute to.
> Chomsky? He's a linguist, what does that have to do with Psychoanalysis? He's also a philosopher, historian and cognitive scientist. He has received a Membership of the National Academy of Sciences (which is an award given to scientists), a Kyoto prize in Basic Sciences, a medal from a German academy of science, an American Psychology Association Award for Distinguished Scientific Contributions to Psychology, etc.…
If you actually had some relevant information you would post it immediately, because that is in your interest in this discussion
Good luck…
My entire life 20 years ago was changed by a dance class to get more social activity absent from a breakup. Therapy, spiritual counsel, exercise, diet, rest, nature, purpose, social network, death of loved ones, illness, blah, blah blah all may have had their place, but it was only circumstance that I truly believe that mattered looking back 50 years on.
Life is precious and easy to take for granted. And yet there is every opportunity to find meaning. Perhaps that is the way it works, take time for yourself, be open to what comes: all the suffering and joy that is here.
Peace be with you
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> You need to see a therapist You should reword that. Otherwise how did humanity last this long? Psychotherapy is less than two centuries old. You should instead say something like, "One option is to see a therapist." There are friends, elders, books, and a number of other ways to climb out of a mental rut. Traipsing "Psychology Today" for a therapist who will charge the insurance $150 for 40 minutes of a session, th…
Humanity "survived" this long, many people did't make that cut, and many of those who did lived in misery, denial, or in the comfort of alcholor and/or drugs. IMO the cost of a couple of sessions to see if it works for you is better than not giving it a shot. OP: Life can be good and does indeed gets better, if you are not in a good place, please do talk to someone, try to make a change, no matter how small, and stay…