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Get married and have children. For time immemorial that is what your ancestors have done. It will not make you happy as you currently conceptualize it, but it will add purpose (and much suffering, as always comes with purpose) to your life. It is what you are designed to do.
are you serious? this nuclear family cliche is terrible advice and would only make one feel even more stuck. ludicrous lol
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This sounds a lot like anhedonia, which is pretty a pretty classic depression symptom
This symptom sneaks up on me. It's normal to be bored sometimes or not satisfied with something. By the time it's bad enough to be recognizable, it's already interfering with my judgment.
It amazes me how much the brain can lie to you like that. And really, when you consider the spectrum of mental illness, anhedonia is almost on the milder side. Of course, it doesn't feel that way at all when it really gets going
You could try coaching (look for ICF certified, or if you're in UK, AC certified coach). This would help you find goals that trully matter TO YOU, and develop fulfilling process for reaching these goals.
You could also try pschoterapy. This could help you be more self-aware and develop mental skills for dealing with feelings that you described.
Get married and have children. For time immemorial that is what your ancestors have done. It will not make you happy as you currently conceptualize it, but it will add purpose (and much suffering, as always comes with purpose) to your life. It is what you are designed to do.
> Get married and have children. This is terrible advice to someone you know virtually nothing about, other than the three paragraphs they chose to type out about themselves. The first part, fine, it only affects a consenting adult. But I always hesitate to cheerfully tell someone to go ahead and sign up for a minimum of 18 years of responsibility for a human being, a human being that you'll be responsible for moldin…
"Create children in order to cure your existential dread" only takes into consideration the needs & feelings of one of of the potentially many humans affected by such a choice.
Nobody fucking cares about the severe pain of the victims this sort of advice creates.
My pops has been going to a local temple for almost 20 years now, he’s not a religious person it’s so he can integrate with people in the community.
> I don't abuse alcohol and never touched drugs
Try a guided journey with psychedelics, in my experience it’s always a good hard-reset on the brain.
A few years ago I started asking myself: "Is this it? Is this all that life has to offer? What's the point?". I was raised secular, and never knew spirituality or religion, but decided to delve in. I was, however, very much against Christianity and was willing to try anything except that. Long story short, after reading about religions, history, theology, I ended up becoming a proponent of the thing I hated the most.
Now I see beauty in life, and especially the future. My fiance and I are getting married, we now go to Church, we're both looking forward to starting a family.
I don't know if you're religious in any way, or interested at all. I was definitely not interested the first 30 years of my life.
If you'd like: I'd be willing to get into contact with you if you need to talk. Not to convert you to Christianity, but since we seem similar in this very narrow scope, maybe we can both learn from each other.
Regardless, I truly hope you find your salvation, as I have found mine. God bless!
I am absolutely blown away by the number of people who are saying that this person, who is clearly depressed and likely burnt out, can solve all of his problems by having children. It is the most insane advice I have ever seen on this site. Jumping to a lifetime commitment as a kneejerk reaction is just so wild to me. Maybe start with a hobby? This guy is working a full time job and a side hustle, but doesn't seem to…
How tf are you gonna have the emotional capacity for kids if you don’t have it even for yourself??
I am absolutely blown away by the number of people who are saying that this person, who is clearly depressed and likely burnt out, can solve all of his problems by having children. It is the most insane advice I have ever seen on this site. Jumping to a lifetime commitment as a kneejerk reaction is just so wild to me. Maybe start with a hobby? This guy is working a full time job and a side hustle, but doesn't seem to…
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> Get married and have children. This is terrible advice to someone you know virtually nothing about, other than the three paragraphs they chose to type out about themselves. The first part, fine, it only affects a consenting adult. But I always hesitate to cheerfully tell someone to go ahead and sign up for a minimum of 18 years of responsibility for a human being, a human being that you'll be responsible for moldin…
Sadly, it's the advice of the typical parent - bring children into the world to suffer for entirely selfish reasons with no regard for the needs, feelings, or welfare of the HUMAN BEINGS they are creating. "Create children in order to cure your existential dread" only takes into consideration the needs & feelings of one of of the potentially many humans affected by such a choice. Nobody fucking cares about the severe…